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I admit that I didn't read the whole thing. I was lucky enough to skip about and find the two or three sane sounding posts, it sounds like!
Thanks for the catch and save, you two. :redface
It was an interesting article; thanks for posting it. The author did make good points, but the problem is she didn't reach any conclusion. And, to a childfree person, it does sound like she slanted toward the parent side of the fence.
One thing that stands out in these articles, no matter who authors them, is this typical message
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Some of the Childfree will say yes – that parenthood is a conscientious choice and they should be prepared to bear the consequences of shouldering a 50-plus hour workweek on no sleep with a few billion pressing needs floating through their minds. But do you really want all your co-workers with children to be panicked about how they’re going to find time to pick up cupcakes for Susie’s graduation or whether they should have sent Jacob to school with a slight fever, instead of focused on their work? What good does that do us as a fellow employee, as a company, as a society?.
Know what? I really don't give a rat's ass.
Typical breeder-think that only
a parent has a busy-busy life outside work. Some childfrees balance hectic schedules outside work, whether it's with having more than one job or going to school or participating in extra-curricular functions like animal rescue or charity work. Our own Thom C would be an example of this, I think. From some of the things he's written, he takes classes to continually update is emergency responder skills and does other activities that correspond to his career.
There were several years that between my husband and I, our schedules didn't respond. Between the time taken up with work, meetings related to work, and classes to update my skills, the only time I saw my husband was for about an hour each day; him coming home from work, me heading out.
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Parents will never stop focusing on their children – nor should they. But until the current confines of the American workplace are adjusted to make families and work/life balance a priority, there will always be tension. There will always be people feeling like they should have it all, but can’t.
Yeah, the author is correct in that instance; there is tension between parents and CFs in the assumption that parents lead crazy lives and CFs have time to fritter; but she thinks the answer is accommodation for families. In this, she is coddling their greed.
It is flat out greedy to think that a woman should be able to have a
faaaabulous career and still get to be a nurturing, fantastic mother, all on her own. If there is any accommodating to be done,
it should be in the realm of the husband or family network. Accommodations at work are going to be at the expense of some people or some facet of the workplace. The company will have to go to greater expense helping these women to be both career-minded and maternal, passing that added cost to the goods and/or services they supply, or the accommodations will have to be made at the sacrifice of other people - typically those without kids.
IMO, the benefits these childbearing women receive should be matched by benefits to those without kids. A 6 week period to give birth and bond with their kid (paid or not)? I want the same. There are a number of worthwhile endeavors (to me) that I've had to put off until the time I'm not working. I'd love to spend 6 weeks working at the Best Friends animal sanctuary in Utah. Shoot, I'd be willing to forfeit a month and a half of pay for the opportunity. Think an employer would sign off on that?
pffffft Not when it means having other people pull OT and shifting schedules around. Yet, a childbearing woman is allowed that amount of time off for however many kids she decides to sluice.
The only way to deflate this tension the author writes about is equitable benefits to employees, both childed and not.