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By the Gods, they should NEVER take their kids to church, especially if they are not religious. That's where the kids will learn to be hypocritical bigots.
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Ondinette
http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/8-non-religious-reasons-kids-church-134700210.html
I have very mixed feelings about this. On one hand I don't like organized religion and the idea of parents "having" to go there for their kids is distasteful. On the other hand, I have already told you about being an unpopular child and how my parents not going to church played a role in it. All I had was home and school and both sucked. Church would have been a third place where maybe I could have found something good.
Once I read something about how the fact many people feel they can only have a social life through church is a sad commentary on America. I agree.
What do you think? Should parents take their kids to church even if they aren't into religion?
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I HATED going to church when I was a kid.
My parents used it as a weapon.
If I didn't go to church on sunday, then I didn't get to do anything the rest of the day!
How is THAT for instilling good values in a kid?
Needless to say, I haven't been to church in over 20 years....
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For a couple of years I was sent to Sunday School. My family aren't religious, so no doubt it was just a way of getting rid of me for a couple of hours. I'm fairly indifferent to religion now, I'm not into it myself but don't mind if other people want to do it.
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I think it's great for a parent to take his or her child to church, synagogue, circle, temple, mosque, etc., to expose the child to his or her faith. But I think it stops there. The child needs the freedom to decide for himself or herself. The reasons listed in the article are not strong enough. As someone who was both literally raised in church every time the door was open (my mother actually had a key) and someone who was a minister for four years, I must comment on the article (this is based on 15 years in the Word of Faith charismatic denomination):
1. Friends. This is true as long as you believe exactly like everyone else. The moment you differ on even the slightest point of doctrine, politics, science, culture, etc., you will be shunned. Trust me! If you disagree, you will be told to submit. If you continue to disagree, you will be called unteachable, stiff necked and stubborn.
2. Community. Again, it's only a community as long as you believe exactly like the rest of the Borg colony. The moment you voice a minority viewpoint, you are cast out of the community. You will be told to go to a church where you can more easily manipulate the pastor.
3. Activities and events. Definitely true. The church is always hopping. However, most of the activities are alternatives to whatever is happening in "the world," such as Hallelujah Festivals instead of Halloween, so they seem to be sloppy and low budget affairs (Christmas pagents with bathrobes and flipflops, that kind of thing). Left Behind parties anyone?
4. Child care. The church does a smashing job at this, but it also depends on the church. I've seen some that were state of the art and made schools look shameful. And I've seen some that had carpeting on the floor (a taboo whenever bodily fluids are present; ask any hospital). The problem is that most churches expect every woman to rotate through child care during service, including the CF because "women just love babies!"
5. Family values. This is the big problem right here. Whose family? Whose values? It's fine when they remain inside the little concrete block building, but when they spill out into greater society, and they do and will, then we have small wars that engulf the political scene. I have my own familiy and my own values, and very few religions of any stripe, denomination or creed come close.
6. Motivation. Yeah, it's true. I was motivated -- to defy "Bring up a child the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it." Not only did I depart, but I became a quasi-pagan! A lot of church-based motivation is rooted in guilt and/or fear (can I get an amen out of the Catholics and Baptists in the room?) so I question the validity of such motivation. I personally think all faiths should be about making better people through love and kindness. Fear and guilt only lead to the hatred and bloodshed we're seeing in the news.
7. Opportunities to help others. THIS SHOULD BE WHAT IT'S ALL ABOUT! I've noticed that the churches that emphasize helping others, the Sermon on the Mount, are the ones we never hear about. We only hear about the ones who emphasize politics, putting women back in the kitchen, having too many kids, donating all your money to the preacher's private jet, obeying thee prophet, etc. At least I hope there are still churches that help people, that they all don't kill sihks, bomb abortion clinics, protest funerals and insist that every woman have six children.
8. Routine. You mean Pentecostal Standard Time, showing up thirty minutes late every Sunday? Or Baptist Savings Time, showing up an hour before the choir so as to get a good seat?
Not as funny as they could be. I'm still suffering spiritual PTSD. Seriously, I could never take a child to church. I just couldn't.
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Ondinette
http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/8-non-religious-reasons-kids-church-134700210.html
I have very mixed feelings about this. On one hand I don't like organized religion and the idea of parents "having" to go there for their kids is distasteful. On the other hand, I have already told you about being an unpopular child and how my parents not going to church played a role in it. All I had was home and school and both sucked. Church would have been a third place where maybe I could have found something good.
Once I read something about how the fact many people feel they can only have a social life through church is a sad commentary on America. I agree.
What do you think? Should parents take their kids to church even if they aren't into religion?
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