http://specialchildren.about.com/u/ua/youradviceneeded/Has-Your-Special-Needs-Parenting-Experience-Been-A-Nightmare.htm
From the article: Books on Parenting IssuesSome parents of children with disabilities are able to see blessings in their situation and find reasons for thankfulness, but for others, the picture is far more bleak. If your life as the parent of a child with special needs has been a nightmare, write about it here, and find some understanding and common experience in the stories of others. Share your story:
Thankful? Not on your life!My experience has been a nightmare that never ever ends. It adversely affected my other son. My disabled son is 42 now, going on 14. Nearly every week, he has an explosive blow out and police get involved (if not the fire department, emergency rooms, psychiatric wards). He’s been tazered a lot. When he was young, his father disappeared and never sent a dime in child support and I could never make enough—even with 2 jobs with shiftwork-- to afford the proper assessment and help for him. It still cost me a FORTUNE getting as much help as I was able to get for him. The stress and overwork ruined my health (not that my son's traumatic birth didn't do enough damage). No way am I remotely thankful for this experience, even though now I can handle anyone--even psychopaths. Yes, I pray for my son all the time, but even God isn't enough. The nightmare goes on.
I can not imagine 42 YEARS of dealing with the aftermath of shitting a Violent Tard Man-Boy, not even for a minute! It sounds like the He-Beast gave her a nasty case of Ravaged Cooter Syndrome™ in the process too! Since birth control of all types were available 42 years ago, I suppose she got the baby showers, casseroles, and festivities she so craved like all moos do. Then, predictably after her husband realized he had sired a Tard, he disappeared, She gave up living life, worked all the time just to support it and get it help when she could working on an assembly line AND did it with a leaking VaginaButthole™, spent every waking moment and every dime she had on this waste of space, and now that he's been grown for over two decades, and she is probably in her 60's, she is STILL tied down to the monster! I am assuming she doesn't go around saying, "It was ALL worth it!", at least I hope not. :smn
no help hereThe town of Albany GA has adopted the nickname,"The Good-Life City"! Yea, right. There is no help whatsoever here in this town for parents of special need children. I have left no stone unturned in trying to find help. I have had to resign from many good paying jobs because there is no centers to help with after school care for children in high school age. I refused to let my other son sacrifice his life of playing ball and singing in the chorus at school just to sit home and care for a child that he did'nt bring into this world. Even though he had done this last year in order for me to keep my job; It just would'nt be fair to him, and he just may start to resent his brother for the way he is. I thank God for both of my children. However, doing this alone can be very overwhelming. Expecially in a town that just doesn't get it. Sometimes I wish that others could walk a day in my shoes to understand the fear of not having enough to support my child, yet loving them enough keep trying.
Here's another Moo going it alone with a Man sized Teen-Tard. Note how she says she won't burden her other "normal" son with baby sitting the tard, but then in the next sentence she admits he has baby sat the Tard for the past YEAR, which is an eternity when you are a teen. She predictably thinks "the village" should help AND, after all her grief, she still thanks, "God for both of my children". This one here probably goes around saying Tard-Teen is a "blessing".:BS
I Understand!I'm reluctant to say I can empathize, though my son is still a teenager and I still hold out hope for a positive outcome. But, I admire this person's honesty, since in our society it is never OK to be this brutally honest about one's own child. We are socialized to think we must parent, uncomplainingly and sacrificially, no matter the disruption to our lives; no matter the abuse; no matter the health-taking toll these children exact. It's not right--parents this overwhelmed and resentful need HELP, not judgment!!
I hate to break it to her, but if her Tard is still a pain in the ass and he's reached the Violent Teen-Tard stage, there IS NO, "...hope for a positive outcome".:Violin
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If YOU are the "exception" to what I am saying, then why does my commentary bother you so much?
I don't hate your kids, I HATE YOU!