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Another thing I've found is that, for a lot of people, it's not about kids vs. CF. It's about the lifescripter life. With some people, it's like they'd be fine if I didn't have kids, as long as I had the "boring suburb house, 2 cars, white picket fence, go to work and go home at a hum-drum office job, only social life is a romantic partner, go to bed at 10 and extent of outings is the neighbor's barbecue" life. But I don't want that, and the fact that I'm paving an adventurous and different life for myself seems to be what gets some of these breeders' panties in a twist.
Jealous mothafuckers, is the only thing I can think of.
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After all the shit I've been through in my life, I have NO qualms about thinking about myself now. If breeders don't like it, TFB.
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I think you are very smart to do this AND working a year or two is becoming more the norm. A lot of business schools require at least year. From my own experience of having gong straight through and seeing students now who have a year or two of the real world under their belts, I think that the latter are better prepared to deal with the work and stress. IQuote
Edit to add - on that note - the fact that I'm slaving away 1) gaining work experience and 2) saving most of my money for grad school, so I won't be in a shit-ton of debt, pisses people off. They start bingoing me to go to grad school right away and take out loans for everything, and start going on about how i'm screwing myself over by not going STRAIGHT out of undergrad because now it's less likely I'll even go at all. Umm, no, fuckwit. And this topic only comes up when they ask about my future goals, or whatever - I don't go around bragging, or anything. Why the hell are people offended that I'm doing this my own way, which I think is wisest for my own self?
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Heard this somewhere about the "selfish" thing, and it makes sense to me...
Everything that everyone ever does is "selfish" in some way. No one ever does anything without the expectation of a positive outcome in their favor. And that's not necessarily a bad thing. Actually, most of the time, it isn't. At its most basic, eating a healthy diet, getting healthy activity, taking meds when you need them, etc. are "selfish" - they benefit one in a positive way. This would extend to getting a good education, getting a job that fits you well, having a good work/personal life balance, good stress management, etc. - these are all "selfish" too. Even things such as working with charities, serving your community, giving love and support to friends/family are "selfish" in the sense that one does them because it satisfies them by doing what they feel is the right thing in life because they care, and want to express it.
So, if you look at things this way, being "selfish" is most always a good thing, although most like to throw it around as an insult.
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Heard this somewhere about the "selfish" thing, and it makes sense to me...
Everything that everyone ever does is "selfish" in some way. No one ever does anything without the expectation of a positive outcome in their favor. And that's not necessarily a bad thing. Actually, most of the time, it isn't. At its most basic, eating a healthy diet, getting healthy activity, taking meds when you need them, etc. are "selfish" - they benefit one in a positive way. This would extend to getting a good education, getting a job that fits you well, having a good work/personal life balance, good stress management, etc. - these are all "selfish" too. Even things such as working with charities, serving your community, giving love and support to friends/family are "selfish" in the sense that one does them because it satisfies them by doing what they feel is the right thing in life because they care, and want to express it.
So, if you look at things this way, being "selfish" is most always a good thing, although most like to throw it around as an insult.
I've tried to explain this to my mom and her partner, both of whom have children, and they just don't seem to get the concept.
I explain that babies are naturally selfish because it helps/helped them survive (evolution) and they look at me like I'm nuts.
I'm "negative" when I explain that even acts like donating to the poor can be selfish because the person in question gets rewarded for it in the form of self-gratification, so the act is, therefore, NOT altruistic.
This isn't bad -- it's simply a fact.