How to Tell Your Wife You Don't Want Any Children August 25, 2014 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 3,454 |
Re: How to Tell Your Wife You Don't Want Any Children August 26, 2014 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 1,073 |
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Stupid article
You may be having marital trouble and she may believe that having a baby will strengthen the marriage.
Re: How to Tell Your Wife You Don't Want Any Children August 26, 2014 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 3,454 |
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Stupid article
You may be having marital trouble and she may believe that having a baby will strengthen the marriage.
Stupidest. Reason. Ever.
Nine times out of ten, or maybe 9.9, babies are The Relationship Killer!
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Re: How to Tell Your Wife You Don't Want Any Children August 26, 2014 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 619 |
You're probably right. This is one of those non-negotiable issues in life, and if one party suddenly gets the urge to breed it doesn't bode well for the CF person. The pressure will always be there because the culture encourages and idealizes breeding. It's amazing that some people still think having a chyld will magically solve relationship problems.r I know several divorced folks, and everyone of them had kyds with their ex. You make the call.Quote
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I dunno. If you separate from the baby-rabied spouse/significant other and they come back won't they just resent you forever because they had to give in and you didn't?
I guess once in a long while the rabied person will just spontaneously change their mind back to being CF, but you'd think most of the time they are just compromising out of fear of loneliness.
I say just dump 'em. They're tainted and you'll never know if/when they'll turn again or scream at you from their death bed that you've denied them their True Purpose In Life TM. s
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Re: How to Tell Your Wife You Don't Want Any Children August 26, 2014 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 3,454 |
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benry
I dunno. If you separate from the baby-rabied spouse/significant other and they come back won't they just resent you forever because they had to give in and you didn't?
I guess once in a long while the rabied person will just spontaneously change their mind back to being CF, but you'd think most of the time they are just compromising out of fear of loneliness.
I say just dump 'em. They're tainted and you'll never know if/when they'll turn again or scream at you from their death bed that you've denied them their True Purpose In Life TM. s
Re: How to Tell Your Wife You Don't Want Any Children August 26, 2014 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,979 |
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Never make an appointment for a vasectomy to solve the problem––especially without consulting your wife. While it's your body, it is also about a joint relationship and making joint decisions about something you both have a say in. Pushing her to agree by such an act will damage mutual trust and reliance in your marriage.
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Re: How to Tell Your Wife You Don't Want Any Children August 27, 2014 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 1,788 |
Re: How to Tell Your Wife You Don't Want Any Children August 27, 2014 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 3,454 |
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evilchildlessbitch
I still maintain any man having sex with a woman who has expressed an urge for children who does not take 100% responsibility for his own birth control is not oopsed and doesn't deserve any pity. He needs to zip it, snip it or wrap it up, even if his partner has something like an IUD or Implanon. I hate when men piss and moan about getting "oopsed" with a pregnancy when they have done nothing to prevent one.
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evilchildlessbitch
I still maintain any man having sex with a woman who has expressed an urge for children who does not take 100% responsibility for his own birth control is not oopsed and doesn't deserve any pity. He needs to zip it, snip it or wrap it up, even if his partner has something like an IUD or Implanon. I hate when men piss and moan about getting "oopsed" with a pregnancy when they have done nothing to prevent one. Suck it up, Duh.
As far as telling a spouse or partner, I think being up front is always best. If the husband or wife change their mind then I really don't see any option but divorce. Children are a deal breaker. Even though there are idiots who will say you compromise by "just having one" instead of two or three, even one changes the life of everyone totally. I know more than one marriage that has broken up over the issue and that is far better than unwanted children or bitter spouses constantly bitching about how they wanted a baby but gave up the dream for their spouse.
Re: How to Tell Your Wife You Don't Want Any Children August 27, 2014 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 1,109 |
Re: How to Tell Your Wife You Don't Want Any Children August 27, 2014 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 5,716 |
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evilchildlessbitch
I still maintain any man having sex with a woman who has expressed an urge for children who does not take 100% responsibility for his own birth control is not oopsed and doesn't deserve any pity. He needs to zip it, snip it or wrap it up, even if his partner has something like an IUD or Implanon. I hate when men piss and moan about getting "oopsed" with a pregnancy when they have done nothing to prevent one. Suck it up, Duh.
As far as telling a spouse or partner, I think being up front is always best. If the husband or wife change their mind then I really don't see any option but divorce. Children are a deal breaker. Even though there are idiots who will say you compromise by "just having one" instead of two or three, even one changes the life of everyone totally. I know more than one marriage that has broken up over the issue and that is far better than unwanted children or bitter spouses constantly bitching about how they wanted a baby but gave up the dream for their spouse.
Apart from the effectivnes of wrapping it up with a baby rabid partner (damn well be vigilant on those condoms., check em all, buy ndew ones for anyone else.)
My rule (and advice I once gave a mate when asked) is from the second of baby talk no sex until your both on the same page or agree to break up. Take a break from each other, get away, sort it out, if your desprate pop over the border for some legal prostitution, you will spend far less on a one off prossie than 18+ child payments. (long story short, He listend to me, we had a lovely weekend in frankfurt, they broke up, I eventually convinced him to fill the condoms with water, they ALL leaked. He's glad as hell, and I'm still cheekily suggesting he pay me half the money he saved.
She is on facebook and now is single moo who has one of those multi father families.
Re: How to Tell Your Wife You Don't Want Any Children August 28, 2014 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 3,454 |
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Zzelda
...Because right here is yet another example of the Typical Man...
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Techie
Zzelda, you may have been dealt a bad hand, but allow me to assure you, that Typical Man NEVER pays for sex. Typical Man does not sleep with prostitutes. Please don't take this the wrong way, but I think I used to have the same way of thinking in the past.
Media would like for us to believe other wise, but we all know that media is nothing more than an advertising machine. If I watch news too much, my perception of this world changes. Media is drawn to nasty things the same way flies are drawn to crap. Media does all that it can to get attention.
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M6
I could have allowed my years of PSO work to jade me where it came to men, but decided to keep an open mind and I found someone to share my life with. Had I allowed these men to taint my views, I would have likely remained alone for the rest of my life.
I think that positive people draw positive people to them, and repel the negative. If you keep an open mind and learn from your past experiences, things will get better. They have for me.
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I could have allowed my years of PSO work to jade me where it came to men, but decided to keep an open mind and I found someone to share my life with. Had I allowed these men to taint my views, I would have likely remained alone for the rest of my life.
I think that positive people draw positive people to them, and repel the negative. If you keep an open mind and learn from your past experiences, things will get better. They have for me.
First off, I think your work is a good alternative too. I have no issues with that. As far as 'the past' for me goes - I'd say I'm about 50 / 50 betweengoodmeh and bad experiences. What gave me a bad opinion of men was various work places and all the married Duh's creeping on me. For what? When they had wives at home sim to me?
And men in general hitting on me. Why me? Do I even look remotely like a Victoria's Secret Model or P orn Star? Um, NO. So why bother with me? For what? And if 'that doesn't matter' - then a hole is a hole so why not go for anyone else? You could just as soon go Gay even - men have holes too. Or carve a hole in a watermelon or something. Why are you even speaking to me? For what?
It makes no sense to me.
Again, I am mainly concerned for people's health here. Do not risk your health - IMO it's so not worth it.
Re: How to Tell Your Wife You Don't Want Any Children August 29, 2014 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 5,716 |
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M6
Not all guys are like that, though. We have some great CF brothers on the board, like Techie and Thom C, who are definitely great people!