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contemplativeintrovert
she was married to a man who chose the bottle over his family
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StudioFiftyFour
Who picked the man?
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she was married to a man who chose the bottle over his family
Some men are drunks before the kids arrive but some men start drinking after the kids come along. Most looser men have one thing in common - they want to breed ASAP. Some insist on breeding before the knot is tied. I have not seen many cases where a relationship with a rabid wanna breed man ends well.
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Techie
Our society is messed up. It teaches women that a man who wants to breed with them must really love them. I have seen lies and best kept secrets. But this one here is so embedded in our culture, I don't think anyone is going to be able to shine any light on this anytime soon. A man who wants to breed is just that - a wanna breeder. To me, that speaks really poorly of his character. As far as I am concerned, men should not push women to breed - it is not right to ask someone to do such a thing to their body. I can see a man being supportive of her breeder desires, that's fine. But for a man to demand for her to sprog, I see this as pure abuse.
If our society would teach women to understand this very basic concept, so many problems could be avoided.
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StudioFiftyFour
Again, who picked the man?
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Techie
Sometimes I compare this to higher education. For example, someone with a master's degree in finance is likely to pick better investment options than someone just with a high school diploma. When someone with a high school diploma and a ton of cash opens up a brokerage account and starts self-guided investing, very few of is are surprised of such person suffers losses.
Our society has poor "education" system. It teaches women to value men which have no value. It gives zero value to men who would actually be ok. In simple words, if a man is willing to breed, he is deemed "responsible and committed". If a man has career goals, is working on his degree or has a stable job but would rather not breed at the moment, our society rejects such men. It is of no surprise to me that women pick drunks and abusers. As long as the guy is willing to breed, all other flaws are ignored. Likewise, if a guy is not willing to breed, any good traits that he may have will likely be ignored.
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Women who are attracted to these "men" are not really "educated" in my opinion. They are chasing a dream that is not likely to become reality. They hope for a good life, but they have no idea that "men" like you mentioned cannot offer that. They think like the breeder brains that they are trained to be. They hope to have a baybee by a bad boy and that bad boy will flip to a charming, caring man. Yeah, ok.
Maybe, just maybe, if our society really sat aside the primal instinct and concentrated on what it takes to be a success in our society, maybe these "men" would have no attention. They would not have as many DNA replicas running around.
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I have also seen surprised duhs. They really had no clue about what was coming. Once the kyd has arrived, duhs flip and blow the gasket. They drown their misery with alcohol. In my personal observation, such usually happens to duhs that REALLY wanted to be duhs. Men who were fence sitters usually do not experience this kind of sorrow. Weird but true.
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I have also seen surprised duhs. They really had no clue about what was coming. Once the kyd has arrived, duhs flip and blow the gasket. They drown their misery with alcohol. In my personal observation, such usually happens to duhs that REALLY wanted to be duhs. Men who were fence sitters usually do not experience this kind of sorrow. Weird but true.
What do you attribute to this phenomenon?
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I think this is related to the fact that men who were fence sitters, they had a better idea about what is involved in child rearing than men who were dead set on it. Somebody who is so much for breeding, they often don't understand all the details involved. When reality shows up, they run away in panic.
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StudioFiftyFour
Again, who picked the man?
I have my doubts that a man would transform from a completely sober man into a complete drunkard and irresponsible lush.
I do agree with you... the guys are losers. But the girls are losers, too. Whining, "I can't believe my man is a drunk and won't take responsibility!," is an example of willful ignorance. I have serious doubts that "Miller Time" started immediately after the loaf arrived. Methinks he was drinking looooong before that, and his stupid, drunken behavior was tolerated or dare I say looked upon as "fun" or "cute."
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freya
Nooo. I worked less than part time as a kid. I was able to afford to buy boxes of macaroni and cheese anytime I wanted. It was one of my absolute favorites and I made sure there was always some around.
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I agree, I think even if the guy wasn't an alcoholic while he was dating the girl, there were probably signs of antisocial behavior that she either chose to ignore or tried to cure. The former is, as you said, willful ignorance and the later is, in my opinion, a combination between stupidity and brainwashing by the media. The media seems to push this idea that all men, despite a bad character, can be cured if only they had some caring women to love them eyes2 . It reminds me of that boys will be boys saying, it's not the beasts fault he's a beast, it's women's fault for not loving him!
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That's what I thought. I'm in my 2nd semester at college, so I've only ever had minimum wage jobs, but whenever I did I was always able to afford food. This woman's begging really is pathetic, if I get a chance to, I will try to record it the next time I hear it.
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Good luck in school.
Just remember, people are what they are. And that's what they are. Some guys are fratboy assholes, others are drunken fools, others are nice guys who never get laid, while others are assertive, decent people.
Some girls are airheads, drunken fools, bar sluts, while others are assertive, decent people.
But they are what they are. And they largely do not change, so there's really no point in expecting them to change. You're not going to turn a sloppy drunken guy into an upstanding citizen and president of your town council. And likewise, an airhead girl who dreams of breeding and being a SAHM isn't going to be reformed into a person whom you can share your life with, intellectually speaking.
But the good news is that there are usually signs pointing to what kind of person a person actually is.
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Thank you, I'm going to need it, I still have 2 math classes to take before I get my degree.
I agree, that's why I think people shouldn't have kids with their significant other until they've been in the relationship for a long time. For some reason though that's not a popular opinion. My first boss was 25 and complained that his wife didn't want kids yet. I'm glad I'll never have to deal with that. Still, it makes me wonder why wanting kids is the default and not wanting kids is the socially deviant behavior.
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What you will need, however, is the ability to stand up for your beliefs without apology. I have no doubt that you will encounter at least one potentially romantic relationship in your life where you will like the other person a lot, but they want kids. Your peers, and perhaps your family will try to nudge you in the direction of reproduction. This is a path that, if taken, you will likely regret.
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Sometimes people simply change
and you don't know what triggered the change.
Some people here and on TCFL posted how they lived
in a happy relationship for years and suddenly, their partner
made 180 degree turn and wanted to breed. They also didn't
see it coming. The result of such a change is mostly the end
of the relationship - the existing, CF person gets dumped over
non-existent chyld.
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The reason why many of such relationships end is because wanna breed gets support and CF person gets vilified. Even some "CF" sites were giving me bad guidance. I don't think I am the only one who put up with such nonsense and I don't think I am the last one. People flipping 180 happens all the time and breeder gets all the sympathy.