Kids are idiots: trying to find bio parents is not the fantasy they imagine.. April 13, 2018 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 3,842 |
Re: Kids are idiots: trying to find bio parents is not the fantasy they imagine.. April 13, 2018 | Registered: 7 years ago Posts: 651 |
Re: Kids are idiots: trying to find bio parents is not the fantasy they imagine.. April 13, 2018 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 2,308 |
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cfuter
I dont know what people think they are gonna get out of this. More places to go to the holidays? More family obligations to clutter up your months and free time on the weekends. Yeah, I would totally pass on that. I just dont know what people are lacking on the inside for this.
Re: Kids are idiots: trying to find bio parents is not the fantasy they imagine.. April 14, 2018 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,199 |
Re: Kids are idiots: trying to find bio parents is not the fantasy they imagine.. April 14, 2018 | Registered: 7 years ago Posts: 651 |
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cfuter
I dont know what people think they are gonna get out of this. More places to go to the holidays? More family obligations to clutter up your months and free time on the weekends. Yeah, I would totally pass on that. I just dont know what people are lacking on the inside for this.
The story from the article is sick and twisted. But what about cases that are more run-of-the-mill?
I am certain I have no children. But in the event that one was looking for me from decades ago, I would not want to be found. If I was found, I'd ask what exactly they wanted (money? information? a father figure?) and as politely as I could, tell them I was not interested in any kind of relationship moving forward.
Re: Kids are idiots: trying to find bio parents is not the fantasy they imagine.. April 15, 2018 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 2,761 |
Re: Kids are idiots: trying to find bio parents is not the fantasy they imagine.. April 15, 2018 | Registered: 7 years ago Posts: 651 |
Re: Kids are idiots: trying to find bio parents is not the fantasy they imagine.. April 15, 2018 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 3,576 |
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twocents
"https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2018/04/13/an-alleged-case-of-incest-leads-to-4-senseless-deaths-in-3-states-one-was-a-baby/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.34bac20c302e""
so much for this nonsense of finding 'famblee'.
even medical stuff, that is what tests are for.
and referring to them as my 'real mom/dad' is a slap in the face to those who did raise them (assuming they had good adoptive parents)
let it go
Re: Kids are idiots: trying to find bio parents is not the fantasy they imagine.. April 16, 2018 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 721 |
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Re: Kids are idiots: trying to find bio parents is not the fantasy they imagine.. April 17, 2018 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,712 |
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cfuter
The medical thing too, come'on, it's nice to know but we're all rolling the dice in life. Someone came back into my uncle's life when he was in 70s. She musta got his address from 'net, and thought my aunt was still around too. She passed tho. She and her mom came looking for him, for medical reasons my guess before she reproduced with her longtime boyfriend. Thing is, she too had a college kid outta wedlock before, that lived w/ a different family. Whatever. Thank Dog my aunt passed, because whether she already knew about this or not, this was not the thing I would want for a 70 yr old woman to deal with. And, what, my cousins were supposed to add her and her soon to be bratz into the family fold? Becuz of a random indiscretion 40-50 yrs ago? It's not like she was an orphan, she had an entire family she grew up w/ and cherished. But no, she's needs the love and medical info from my 70+ yr old uncle. Crazy bullshit if u ask me.
Re: Kids are idiots: trying to find bio parents is not the fantasy they imagine.. April 17, 2018 | Registered: 7 years ago Posts: 651 |
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cfuter
The medical thing too, come'on, it's nice to know but we're all rolling the dice in life. Someone came back into my uncle's life when he was in 70s. She musta got his address from 'net, and thought my aunt was still around too. She passed tho. She and her mom came looking for him, for medical reasons my guess before she reproduced with her longtime boyfriend. Thing is, she too had a college kid outta wedlock before, that lived w/ a different family. Whatever. Thank Dog my aunt passed, because whether she already knew about this or not, this was not the thing I would want for a 70 yr old woman to deal with. And, what, my cousins were supposed to add her and her soon to be bratz into the family fold? Becuz of a random indiscretion 40-50 yrs ago? It's not like she was an orphan, she had an entire family she grew up w/ and cherished. But no, she's needs the love and medical info from my 70+ yr old uncle. Crazy bullshit if u ask me.
Guess she has never heard of the expression let sleeping dogs lie.
The funny part about this is she waits until he is 70. It is more understandable from a younger person because someone at 20 who was adopted may think their birth parents obsess over them as much as they obsess over the birth parent. It would be easier for a 50 year old to understand that the birth parent may have not given the biological kid a second thought or even have known about him/her. At 20 a random indiscretion may prompt the kid to wonder how there can be an adult out there who doesn't give a fig about him/her. By 50 pretty much everyone will know of many random indiscretions and have seen enough of life to know that there are plenty of children with bio-parents who are not in their lives and don't care to ever be.
Re: Kids are idiots: trying to find bio parents is not the fantasy they imagine.. April 17, 2018 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 1,304 |
Re: Kids are idiots: trying to find bio parents is not the fantasy they imagine.. April 18, 2018 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 2,364 |
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the noodler
If anything, this trend of people looking for their birth parents may put people off from adopting out a child. Think about it. You think you are free of a child you can't look after for whatever reason. You go many years thinking it is all behind you and then BAM! A knock on the door and suddenly you are staring back at the past.
Re: Kids are idiots: trying to find bio parents is not the fantasy they imagine.. April 18, 2018 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 3,576 |
Re: Kids are idiots: trying to find bio parents is not the fantasy they imagine.. April 18, 2018 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 2,364 |
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craftyzits
Tell brat to piss off and if it doesn't get a restraining order.
Re: Kids are idiots: trying to find bio parents is not the fantasy they imagine.. April 21, 2018 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 1,367 |