well i know i will stay with my rowan/faust forever, we both know when to be apart, when to be seperate people. i know i couldnt live without her, she is my sounding board, but then we are unusual people, maybe its because we spend time apart, and not get too involved, familiarity breeds contempt. i have my life and she has hers, she can go out to the movies if she wishes, i dont want to control her life and she doesnt want to control mine. we like to be together, but sometimes when we are together its nice to be apart (we both read in the same room being together yet in our own little book worlds).
we havent really argued, but there has been a few misunderstandings, the way i speak and the way she hears it, can be totally different, and the reverse is also true. but we both now understand that how we speak is just a minor thing.
probably because we are cf, and because of who we are, we can survive more problems, (and the long distance is a problem but we know how to survive it).
kids would destroy anything like a marriage, the extra stresses and strains, many people i know get married for the sake of the kid, or they have a kid for the sake of a marriage.. and it almost always fails. as they get totally wrapped up into one person, like a tree with ivy grown on it, so much that it crashes to earth, when it should be 2 trees giving mutual strength and support.
marriage is not making 2 people 1 person, its to my mind a mutual support, and love, and giving them room, when they wish it.
at least thats my mind, and i hope to be married sometime this year.
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