Hey, Feh! Normally, I try not to be too much of a "Bed; Made; Lie..." person since we all have made mistakes in life. I know I have; however, I had to say the same thing to a former friend (an older man) who claimed he was "worried" about me because I had not kids. Why was this man so "worried"? I got the usual Breeder Bingo of "who will take care of me in my old age" routine. I told this man how none of his children will take care of him or his wife.
For one thing, I told him that breeding was the worst financial mistake of his life. One son and daughter-in-law got this man to co-sign for a car. Big mistake! Most of the time, Sonny Boy does not pay the car note which means the bank debits my ex-friend's checking account. Those were the terms of the loan since the son and his wife had such horrible credit. God...I learned my lesson from co-signing a car for my soon-to-be former husband. Don't even ask...
Second, the daughter along with her husband and two kids live at home with R*ch*rd and his wife. Son-in-law does work but puts nothing towards the place. Dumb Ex-Friend thought that buying that larger house for them all would make the "kids" mature. Daughter had a very good job...but like my soon-to-be ex, she quit saying her migraines prevented her from working but she went back to school for her college degree. I know MANY people who work with debilitating headaches!
Of course, it is her FATHER who picks up the kids from school. The daughter cannot do it when she is not at the university because she does not "feel good". This man's wife does all of the housework. Oh...about the son, he is always quitting jobs even though he also has sprogs to support.
I told this guy that he better hope he and the wife J**et remain in good health becaues they are screwed if aging takes hold and they cannot care for themselves. I also made the snide comment of how they will need to worry of who will take care of their kids when their time comes from this life. I know
that was a low blow but I am tired of people saying they are worried or feel sorry for me for not breeding.
Living in Marin County made me also see what KFLL mentioned of how the "grown" kids will not remember a parent's birthday but will call for money. Most Marinite young adults do not want to move out of Mommy and Daddio's lovely house and start on their own in an apartment or with roomies. I was sort of an anomaly living in that place on Van Ness Street in SF when the folks had a nice Marin County address. It was cool to be on my own. Also, it taught me that I can survive anywhere in any awful situation if I could live in that place.