The highlights are mine: I see this with victims of narcs, toxic parents: they drag their offspring to these nasty people so their own children can also be abused (all sort of variations). And yeah, maybe yer mom has a reason not to want to worship your little trophies as well.
From Carolyn Hax, 2006
Dear Carolyn: Recently at a small gathering in my mom's workplace, my mom passed around a picture of my sister's dogs with Santa and introduced them as her grand-dogs. My teenage son (her grandchild) was totally disgusted and, needless to say, I was appalled.
I would not have reacted so negatively, but my mother does not have ONE picture of my children in her office, not even a Polaroid. Pictures of my sister, her new husband and her dogs are plastered EVERYWHERE.
Also, she does not come to visit with my children but will drive hours to pick up and "babysit" those dogs. This bizarre behavior has been brought to my mother's attention, yet it continues.
To worsen the resentment, she helps support my sister and her husband. My husband suggests we just stay away. What do you recommend?.
Completely Fed Up: That you listen to your husband, unless you find some way to make peace with the fact that your mother’s attentions will never be fair.
Because: She will not change. She will not change.
She will not change.
And even if you do come to see that your mother’s favoritism reflects poorly on her, not you — which it does, for what it’s worth — you should still take at least part of your husband’s advice. Your mother doesn’t show your kids any love, and yet you drag them to see her, expecting her to show love —
thereby setting them up for slaps in the face. Not fair.
Do what you must for your own relationship with your mom, but consider sparing your kids the dog-and-Santa show.
two cents ¢¢
CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!
people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong
Dysfunctional relationships almost always have a child. The more dysfunctional, the more children.
The selfish wants of adults outweigh the needs of the child.
Some mistakes cannot be fixed, but some mistakes can be 'fixed'.
People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. Leo J. Burke
Adoption agencies have strict criteria (usually). Breeders, whose combined IQ's would barely hit triple digits, have none.