Even more regret from theage.com May 29, 2021 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 2,062 |
Re: Even more regret from theage.com May 29, 2021 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 1,735 |
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cfdavep
https://www.theage.com.au/lifestyle/life-and-relationships/having-a-kid-is-probably-my-biggest-life-regret-wife-concurs-20210525-p57v3b.html
Parenting sucks.
Re: Even more regret from theage.com May 30, 2021 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,199 |
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Perinatal relationship counsellor Elly Taylor, the author of Becoming Us, explains that most parents have mixed feelings about having a baby, citing “the loss of lifestyle, the loss of spontaneity and the loss of having control of your life” as significant factors.
“Regret can range from looking at each other and thinking ‘what the hell have we done?’ to people whose relationships have broken down because they didn’t have enough support during parenthood.”
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Here we go with more bullshit
Taylor says she often counsels parents who feel guilty about wanting to leave and being unable to cope with day-to-day challenges.
“They regret having kidS and wish that they never did, and it’s very hard for them to admit that. A lot of parents don’t anticipate how significant the changes to their lives will be. It’s something they are not sufficiently prepared for.
“Some people expect being a parent to make their life happier, or make them more in love with their partner, and we know from research that is not the case. From counselling I know that when a parent can understand the reasons for their feelings and have those reasons validated, it’s almost as if those feelings clear up.”
Re: Even more regret from theage.com May 30, 2021 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,976 |
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James says he feels as though he was tricked into having children. “People say how blessed they are to have kids and how they love them. But once you have kids and complain about school lunches, listening to the Wiggles and the lack of sleep, everybody agrees with you. Why do they wait to tell you how bad it is after the fact? I can honestly say it’s harder than I ever imagined and if I had my time again, I would never have done it.”
Re: Even more regret from theage.com May 31, 2021 | Registered: 7 years ago Posts: 651 |
Re: Even more regret from theage.com May 31, 2021 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 5,635 |
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But, I wonder if it was socially acceptable, how many divorced (especially) dads, and moms, wouldn't see their adult kids. Like "that is a nice person but I dont want to hang out and make small talk and try to connect, I rather just make connections with people I choose as a friend."