I get to go by the Fulton Mall in Brooklyn pretty regularly. It's a historically black shopping district. Now, I'm not saying that the people shopping there are on assistance because they're black, I'm saying that because it's during the workday. As for what I'm doing there, I'm walking past it to get to my next appointment, and I do this during the workday because I'm a free-lancer and do contract type stuff, so change locations. I know these people are not doing that because if they were, they'd be walking quickly and purposefully like me, but they're leaning against buildings, strolling around, hollering at other people. So they're getting their money from someplace and it isn't work.
Now, to get to my point...they are buying name-brand stuff I would never waste my money on. They have fancier cell phones than I do. They all have iPods, and I'm not talking about the Shuffle. They have hairstyles that cost a hell of a lot more than mine, and they have manicures that I don't get, period. My "iPod" is a memory card in a Zire and I listen to it with free foam earphones from American Airlines. And I say it's because of these decisions about what to do with what we get that they are on public assistance while my husband and I have a net worth of close to $1mill.
I reject the idea that they had lesser opportunities than I did. My father was an alcoholic who was never around. I went to public school, as did my husband. We did not get to do cushy internships or anything like that for we had to support ourselves through college and as adults.
I also had a cousin who was raised in the same situation as me, who flunked out of high school, got knocked up, got into drugs, was declared an unfit mother and lost custody of her kid, has knocked around, and now is close to 50 with another divorce under her belt, no assets, and no place to stay. She has the nerve to say our lives turned out differently because of my advantages. People like that who just expect to follow their emotions from second to second and never make a sacrifice or do anything they don't feel like doing ALWAYS assume that people like me just had it easy, because they cannot even relate to the concept of investing in their own future.
Also, I think the media gives us a lot of exposure to Nicole and Paris types that indeed did NOT have to work for their lifestyles. However, just because a handful of people live an out-of-sight privileged life, does not negate the fact that for all of us, just about everyone we encounter in REAL LIFE who is financially better off is that way because at some point they made some sacrifice or did some level of hard work that others simply were not willing to do, and they actually DESERVE to be better off. And it has nothing to do with race, educational level of parents, or anything like that.