on thebritgirl.com, theres a topic about i want a baby and my husband doesnt, its about a story on an australian health board, now there is a new commenter, asking for advice.. i think what she asks is good, i made a comment myself, asking her what she really wanted, and the pitfalls, was just wondering if anyone else can think of any pitfalls. that i missed.. i think its good someone has come to her board and the people on it, to ask how to cope with being childfree
http://thebritgirl.com/2007/05/26/i-want-a-baby-but-my-husband-doesnt/#comment-7228
**Ellie (13:16:11) :
Hi,
I am hoping that you childfree people can help me with some pep talk. I am 39, no children, bad in relationships. Recently I met a wonderful man and I finally , after 10 years, dared to get involved in a loving relationship. This man has 2 children from a previous marriage. He does not want another child and says he does not know if he can ever change his mind.
I understand this. He does not want more children, period.
I on the other hand strongly long for a child. he has made clear that he understands if I chose to leave him since I am running out of time (if there is any).
I don’t wish to leave this man. I may not find somebody else I can rely on and I may not be able to have kids anyway because of my age. But it is a difficult decision and I don’t know how to NOT ruin the relationship and have this come between us. I have to accept there will be no children. I just don’t know how to get peace with myself and supress this strong longing. How did you people in the same situation manage it?
Grateful for comments**
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