Sigh...you seem to think that men, who hold most of the CEO and high governmental positions that dictate how our every day lives go, are the most oppressed and beat down segment of society when in all actuality, it's that the poor of both genders are. It's not the holes vs. things, it's the haves vs. have nots.
"since women are 51 % of the population, why arent there 51% in those fields..could it be they chose not to do those jobs..but more women go for the softer jobs, administration, and the like.. why shouldnt it be 51% women 49% men.. in every field.. why are the admin jobs mostly given to women, are men not "right" for them.."
Lessee...because women still aren't encouraged by society to do hard manual labor, and men still aren't encouraged by society to do things that involve "caring" and working with people. People are pushed in directions by their guidance councelors, teachers and professors, generally just based on their genders. A woman who is interested in science will be encouraged to be a science teacher, a man who has the same interests will be encouraged to be a researcher. I'm not saying it's right, it's just how it is. I mean, you may as well be asking why 49% of hairdressers aren't men...
"ok men only have one thing, work till you die, support your family. (thats family as in cf family, parent family), if you get a divorce your screwed, you still have to support your family, you get oopsed you have to support it, if men got the children and the woman paid that would be fair.. but its not like that.. courts arent like that they are pro family and pro woman. and to be that way they have to screw the man.. who then has no choice but to work, if he doesnt, he can go in prison, he can lose his right to travel (passport taken away). is that fair.. no its bloody well not. but thats what happens today. "
No...ALL poor to moderate income people of both genders will have to work until they die. VERY FEW poor to moderate income families (CF included) are able to survive on ONE income.
Courts were set up and mostly run by men. Most judges are men. So it's men beating down men, in that forum. And did you know that until a couple decades ago it was pretty much aokay in the court system to rape a woman? And that a husband can't possibly force his wife to have sex, because they're married and that's her job? And that when a woman called the cops because her husband was beating her, they used to just say "hey, could you keep that beating quiet, your disturbing the neighbors?" Women still have to prove in court that they weren't "deserving" of a rape or beating, they're guilty until proven innocent. So yes, maybe they do get the soft end of the stick when it comes to divorce, but when it comes to violence they still get the beating end.
"men are treated like scum, treated like we are monsters. we are expected to give our lives to save women and children. why? let them save themselves.. if they want to be treated like men, then dont expect any preferential treatment, men never have had preferential treatment.. unless you count the early deaths. "
Because historically men were either rapists or saviors...if you want to break that trend, then say No to it. Don't be the "strong protector" bristling at every gaze another man puts on your woman, don't go into the rescue field, open a knitting shop...and for chrissakes stop saying things like "Women just want to be taken care of and all men have to work all the time like dogs to take care of those women". That's just playing into it. You aren't a victim here, no one is forcing you to wear a jockstrap and shoot a gun to save a bus full of nuns and orphans.
"men have little choice now and especially in the past. women could stay home, have kids, go to college, and have a career.. men.. they were looked down upon if they didnt go to work.. and called losers. hows that for the life of males.."
That's the PAST and that can not be changed, deal with it and make the future better. Guess what, people of both genders who don't work are generally thought of as losers...and either way, you're still caring what "society" thinks. As long as you care about that, you'll be miserable if you don't fit in the way they want you to.
"it is about choice more so in these times.. women could work in these jobs.. but they dont want too. so since women dont want it.. men will have to do it.. "
And since the white people don't want to do it for cheap, the brown people will. Men don't HAVE to do anything of the sort to pick up the "slack" left by women not going into those positions. No man has ever been forced against his will to be a firefighter or cop...and historically there probably have been many women who would have liked to hold those positions that were disallowed from doing so. Soldier, yes men have been conscriped against their will, but that gets everyone cheesed off and so they don't have drafts any more.