via dr helens blog to this link
http://www.pajamasmedia.com/2007/07/ask_dr_helen_doing_unto_others.php
this is just focused on the serial breeders.. but its and interesting thing and i think explains a lot about these kind of women, (i know she hasnt mentioned men in the equation that doesnt mean she just blames the woman. this is more a specific comment about that kind of male..)
Today the topic is self-interest, first as it relates to certain male/female relationships and then as it relates to altruism. David emails the first question:
Dr. Helen,
Can you explain to me how the guy in Ohio who is alleged to have killed his pregnant girlfriend has managed to impregnate at least 4 different women, none of who he appears to have been married to at the time? As a guy I just cannot imagine a woman wanting to sleep with a creep who is a serial sperm donor. Do they have no self-respect?
dr helens comments..
Some women who like these sorts of guys may have too little self-respect, too much or a combination of both. What do I mean by this? The common reason people come up with when women hook up with men who are trouble—such as prisoners—is that the woman herself has some type of low self-esteem. It’s possible, of course. She may not have gotten enough nurturing and admiration from a father figure and has been desperately seeking that acceptance ever since, yada yada yada. Or it actually could be that she has too much self-esteem, that is, she sees herself as the “special one” who will rescue this troubled guy and help him rise above his sorry ways and she can feel special and altruistic about the part she played in his redemption. She may actually crave the excitement of the chase in the same way that a man chases after the unavailable woman who ignores him.
Or perhaps it is some combination of low self-esteem on the part of the woman who feels she doesn’t quite measure up and yet, if she gets this man who has shown himself to be a serial breeder to want to be with just her, she will feel that she is the winner she thinks that she should be deep down.
Of course, it could be that the chase of the serial sperm donor is less about getting the man and more about beating the competition. It is in the woman’s self-interest to get the guy to commit to her, even if she does not really want him. Why? Because she can then feel that she has beaten out the other women vying for this guy’s attention and won the challenge. My guess is that if he did commit to her, she might not want him for long.
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