JoJo Wrote:
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> What I want to know, is where are these women
> meeting these men who are willing to pay for
> everything?
>
> Back before I retired from dating, the closest I
> got to a meaningful relationship was with a jerk
> who wanted to pay me the munificient sum of $10 a
> week for food, nothing towards the rent and
> utilities and when I pointed out I couldn't afford
> to support both of us on my $6 hourly salary as a
> temp, suggested I take a second job at Burger
> King. He truly didn't get why I was angry and
> ended the relationship.
JoJo, I left a marriage almost a year ago for the exact reasons you experienced. This man is now 50 and expected to be a permanent college student while working here 'n there as a temp grading those FCAT-type tests or substitute teaching (which he got fired from the agency). I supported my soon-to-be ex when he had the migraines and could not work.
I thought it would get better when he got disability payments via Social Security. But...he felt entitled to get his college degree. I was not getting rich either in the call center or security world. I finally paid off a debt and only worked 4 days a week seven months before I left his ass. His comment was how I was "lazy" for not working "full-time". This ass forgot how *I* was the one who had worked massive overtime before he got Medicare and had taken a second job often. I even worked at Wendy's until something better came along.
When I left this man and sent him an e-mail telling him it was OVER, the ass acted like I walked out of a "real" marriage. It had not been a marriage in years. What a fucking joke! Like that idiot you got with, my soon-to-be former husband just could not understand
WHY I would leave him. Welllll...I should be on the docket soon for the divorce...yeah!
Despite what you and I have been through, it does seem easier for a woman to rip off a man. Divorce court tends to favour females. If a man comes into a marriage with a house, he should not sell and buy again because it is no longer "pre-marital" property once the new home is purchased with the $$$ from the other place. Once the bitch has her name on the property, the guy is fucked. However, a lot of times, men end up having to move for work purposes. What do you do then: rent so the funds cannot be touched in the event of a divorce? The system is fucked.
From my own experience and other women who experienced the same, it goes under-reported since most ladies just want to move on with their lives with no drama after being leeched off of by a man. Oh yes...there are a lot of men who want to get it on right away but think that taking the lady out to dinner or even for a movie & popcorn is "too much". JoJo, I do not blame you at all for ditching dating. I look at dating to be similar to dreaded job interviews. I would not do it again. For what? More hassle? I don't fucking think so...