She is preggers with her FIFTH kid, and this is her SEVENTH pignancy in 10 years.
Now, they have money to afford it, and she and BIL are pretty good parents, but who the fuck has 5 kids these days...(and allegedly is working during the day, but I don't buy it)?!?!
They are both professionals in a medical field, even my breeder MIL and my less-militant CF hubby are like, isn't this enough?
I ranted 2-3 kids ago, her doctor told her to stop after the 2nd brat b/c it could kill her (I don't know why) and then one kyd did make her very ill for a very long time, and still she had more and now even MORE!
They claim one of the miscarriages and 2 or 3 of the kyds weren't planned. But this is ri-goddamn-diculous, especially from 2 highly educated people. I have no idea why they don't spend some dough on getting spayed or neutred, or just old-fashioned BC. She had money for plastic surgery....that then got ruined by babies afterwards(so my guess is they were 'mistakes')
Not to mention, I think between the nannies and the free babysitting she gets from family makes things a little too easy for them since they go on multiple exotic trips every year and have so much time and energy for unprotected sex. When you have this many kids, and work (allegedly), you should be a little more tired at bedtime.
I, in my own selfishness, am sick of traveling out of state for christenings, communions, and other child-centric events and gift grabs that my hubby is way too generous for, but that's his familiy. Or, being treated like evil oddballs because we don't fly out there for everything like the other breeders in the family. I tell you, I'm sick of it.
I don't want to hear further crying and brattish behavior at holiday time. I'm just waiting for the brats in the family to grow up already, now, hear comes yet another one!
In my ideal dreamlife IL/family situation, I would love the 4 women in his family to have 2 or less kids, and just stop. And be lowkey parents and not breeders in one way or another, his family is too baby centric I think for even a non-CF. I can't believe I am being subjected to this by happenstance. The first 15 years of holidays were fun adult parties that I could get a little tipsy at :chug, now they have turned into nothing but scream fest, and everythings for the brats for the last 10 years. And they end super early, like the parunts are the only ones that count.
The holiday parties don't even seem like they ever came from the same family. I can't believe me, the CF, accidentially married into this family and every holiday experience will suck. (not going is not truly an option b/c of hubby's obligation to his family and we do "opt out" on a ton of things already)
I was wondering....how are your guys' family/holiday experiences from the CF point of view? Did you end up marrying into non-stop too fertile breeders (even if they are PNBs) and end up being surrounded by brats for decades on end? or, a few kids here and there and it is tolerable? How far are you from what you wish your family life/holidays was? Obviously, for many, the CF ideal would be zero neices and nephews, but how far are you from what you thought you could stomach?
Misery loves company I guess.