ok as some of you may not know the background to the last sweary post on my blog. i will write up exactly whats happened.
Rowan first met michelle (who i will call stick from now on) when she was about 15 or 16, and they were ok friends, stick thought it was more. after a few months stick was bullied into making abuse accusations at rowans father victor (sexual abuse of stick and his daughter) and tried to force rowan to do the same.. she didnt.
then they were less friends from then on.. fast forward a few years, mid 20's and stick comes back into rowans life, now victor starts to fancy stick, and they go on, as friends. then 5 years ago, stick is in prison for something, and meets a man who is also in prison, and they have sex and have a child, now this man abused this child and possibly stick. then he ended up back in prison for drug dealing i think or worse. so there she is with one kid, she meets another man, and he was a jerk, she got pregnant again, and so he left then she met a 3rd man, now with 2 kids in tow.. and guess what.. yes he was a criminal as well.. and she ended up pregnant for the 3rd time.. he left..
Now this is where she comes into my life.. so stick is kicked out of her (sticks) fathers house because he said to stick you can only look after 2 children, either get rid or get out.. and she didnt want to get rid.. so she left and because her and victor were talking he invited her over temporarily.. 7 months later she was still there with the latest child. now i was there and i experienced it, her and those kids were sleeping on a couch, roawn has her own room so did victor.
and she had the tv on all day long dora the explorer and loud.. and all the othr childrens shows. but what got me was the kids were in the lounge and the tv was on.. and she was watching horror films some of which disturbed me. but she saw no problem in having those kids see it. ashton was 4 eden was 2, and logan was new born.
ok i could just about cope with that but the kids lovedto scream (ashton has mental problems and he is a deeply scary child). so in essence we were trapped in rowans room then when stick saw we loved each other she tried to break us up. telling rowan i saidsummat or looked at her, and she told me stuff about rowan.. all made to break us up.
then stick found another man, a "richer fatter man" who could giv her the love she deserved.. and guess what it didnt work out. and she got into a scam that any intelligent person would never fall for.. now to go to this new man, stick just left with no word of anything.. until it failed.. thn it was oh victor i need help take me back am going to be kicked out of here.. so the fool he is he takes he back..
then she goes off with another man,, who is now in prison, and she got pregnant again.. then she left seth, and went to move i with someone else but they kicked her out again.. and it was oh victor jhelp me, one last time i can change i can be different.
so thats this october, when she arrived, with her 3 kids and the 4th on the way. i sat and spoke to victor or 3 hours and he agreed that she wasnt a nice person, then she turns up as we discuss it, she kept saying cant you give me the benefit of the doubt i said to her face NO, i went through everything, she had brought the youngest with her and was using it as a weapon. then for another 3 hours i said everything to her face.. he said he would go by our decision, which was NO.. then the next day he picks her up and moves her in..
this was over my wedding which i was NOT happy, she ruined the day. so this 1 and a half weeks till she can get section 8 became over a month, he finally kicked her out.. because she kept speaking to a lot of men, and asking vicotr for money 2000 for this 4000 for that.. so rowan was here at xmas, and because ofthe stress victor put her under and stick being around.. she wasnt happy and i wasnt happpy either. so fast forward to the day after rowan lands back there.. and victor goes and picks her up and moves her in again.. this time she has some tax refund so she can rent a flat for 2 months.
now while rowan was here stick phoned victor and told her she loves him and will he marry her, and that a woman is in charge of the money in a family.. and she wants him to buy her a diamond ring.. now before she told me and rowan that she wouldnever touch him becua he was disgusting and repulsive and would never love him ever.
so stick is there. and i made an ultimatum, if she is still there by the weekend,, i am never going back.. gonna send for rowan, but i am never going there.
so after 2 months its either she is going to be got rid, or victor and stick are together.. if they are together, then he is not my father in law, and he is never coming to the uk to stay with me and rowan.
i give up on him, he has lost all respect i had for him. (stick uses those kids as weapons, oh what will happen to my kiddies)... victor is NO blood relation to stick, he only wants to screw her. he has ruined my wedding day, he has ruined xmas, and he will ruin rowans life.. and mine.
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