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comments are very moo related January 26, 2008 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 4,402 |
Mother sacrificed her life by refusing cancer treatment so her premature baby would live
Lorraine Allard lost cancer battle three weeks after giving birth
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/health/womenfamily.html?in_article_id=510308&in_page_id=1799
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Last updated at 00:42am on 26th January 2008
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Four months into her pregnancy, Lorraine Allard was devastated to learn she was in the advanced stages of cancer.
Doctors advised her to have an abortion and start chemotherapy straight away.
Instead, with steadfast courage, she insisted on waiting long enough to give her unborn son a chance to survive, telling her husband Martyn: "If I am going to die, my baby is going to live."
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Lorraine Allard, 33, and Liam two weeks after he was born. She started a course of chemotherapy almost straight away and was able to cradle him just a handful of times before she died last Friday
A caesarean delivery was scheduled at 26 weeks, but Mrs Allard went into premature labour a week before and Liam was born on November 18.
She then started chemotherapy, but died on January 18 - having left her bed a handful of times to cuddle her son beside his incubator.
"Lorraine was positive all the way through - she had strength for both of us," Mr Allard said yesterday.
"Towards the end we knew things weren't going well, but she was overjoyed that she had given life to Liam."
The 34-year-old oilfield technician from St Olaves, near Great Yarmouth, Norfolk, and his 33-year-old wife already had three daughters - Leah, ten, Amy, eight, and Courtney, 20 months - when they learned they were expecting their first boy
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Grieving: Lorraine's husband Martyn with his two daughters, Amy, 8, and Courtney, 20 months
"We were going to have the full set and didn't plan to have any more children after that," said Mr Allard.
But in October last year, his wife started suffering stomach cramps and tests at James Paget Hospital in Gorleston revealed tumours on her liver.
It is believed the disease spread from bowel cancer that had been growing unnoticed for years.
"The doctors said they couldn't do anything because she was pregnant," said Mr Allard.
"She told them straight away they were not going to get rid of the baby. She'd have lost the will to fight."
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Fighting for life: Liam in hospital just after his birth. He is still in hospital but it is hoped he could fit enough to go home in March
Mrs Allard went into labour a couple of weeks after the diagnosis and gave birth at the Norfolk and Norwich University NHS Hospital in Norwich.
"Liam was so tiny, just 1lb 11oz, so the nurse picked him up and allowed Lorraine to give him a little kiss before he was taken to an incubator," said Mr Allard.
"She was so emotional. She had been so determined to give him the best chance and was happy that he had been born naturally, which meant she wouldn't have to recover for a couple of weeks after a caesarean before beginning the chemotherapy."
The treatment began almost immediately and Mrs Allard spent her time recuperating at home, apart from four visits to her newborn son.
The first was when he was two weeks old, during which a treasured photo of her cuddling him was taken.
Treasured photo: Lorraine and Martyn with Liam. Her father said 'She was a big personality with a heart of gold'
Liam has responded well to his care and it is hoped he will be sent home from hospital in early March.
But his mother's health started to deteriorate just before Christmas and a scan on January 17 revealed the tumours were still growing.
She died the following day. Mr Allard said: "The doctors had said the cancer was no longer curable, although they were trying to shrink the tumours - which they thought might give her a couple of years.
"On the day Lorraine died, she hadn't eaten for two weeks and couldn't drink.
"I laid beside her and she was gripping my hand quite tight.
"We were like that for about half an hour. I could feel against my chest that her heart was slowing down. She just slipped away after that. It was very peaceful.
"When Liam is old enough, I won't tell him that Lorraine gave her life for him, but I will say she made sure he had a good chance of life.
"She told me she didn't want him to feel bad about it."
Mrs Allard's father, Tom Berry, said: "I was overwhelmed by the way Lorraine took it.
"She lived for her husband and children. She was a big personality with a heart of gold."
Babies born at 25 weeks have a 50 per cent chance of survival.
This goes down to 39 per cent at 24 weeks and 17 per cent - or a one in six chance - at 23 weeks.
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Lord, what fools these mortals be!
- A Midsummer Night’s Dream, Act III, Scene ii
Voltaire said: "Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities."
H.L.Mencken wrote:"The whole aim of practical politics is to keep the populace alarmed (and hence clamorous to be led to safety) by menacing it with an endless series of hobgoblins, all of them imaginary.â€
Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former. Albert Einstein
Lorraine Allard lost cancer battle three weeks after giving birth
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/health/womenfamily.html?in_article_id=510308&in_page_id=1799
By ANDREW LEVY - More by this author »
Last updated at 00:42am on 26th January 2008
Comments (52)
Four months into her pregnancy, Lorraine Allard was devastated to learn she was in the advanced stages of cancer.
Doctors advised her to have an abortion and start chemotherapy straight away.
Instead, with steadfast courage, she insisted on waiting long enough to give her unborn son a chance to survive, telling her husband Martyn: "If I am going to die, my baby is going to live."
Scroll down for more...
Lorraine Allard, 33, and Liam two weeks after he was born. She started a course of chemotherapy almost straight away and was able to cradle him just a handful of times before she died last Friday
A caesarean delivery was scheduled at 26 weeks, but Mrs Allard went into premature labour a week before and Liam was born on November 18.
She then started chemotherapy, but died on January 18 - having left her bed a handful of times to cuddle her son beside his incubator.
"Lorraine was positive all the way through - she had strength for both of us," Mr Allard said yesterday.
"Towards the end we knew things weren't going well, but she was overjoyed that she had given life to Liam."
The 34-year-old oilfield technician from St Olaves, near Great Yarmouth, Norfolk, and his 33-year-old wife already had three daughters - Leah, ten, Amy, eight, and Courtney, 20 months - when they learned they were expecting their first boy
Scroll down for more...
Grieving: Lorraine's husband Martyn with his two daughters, Amy, 8, and Courtney, 20 months
"We were going to have the full set and didn't plan to have any more children after that," said Mr Allard.
But in October last year, his wife started suffering stomach cramps and tests at James Paget Hospital in Gorleston revealed tumours on her liver.
It is believed the disease spread from bowel cancer that had been growing unnoticed for years.
"The doctors said they couldn't do anything because she was pregnant," said Mr Allard.
"She told them straight away they were not going to get rid of the baby. She'd have lost the will to fight."
Scroll down for more...
Fighting for life: Liam in hospital just after his birth. He is still in hospital but it is hoped he could fit enough to go home in March
Mrs Allard went into labour a couple of weeks after the diagnosis and gave birth at the Norfolk and Norwich University NHS Hospital in Norwich.
"Liam was so tiny, just 1lb 11oz, so the nurse picked him up and allowed Lorraine to give him a little kiss before he was taken to an incubator," said Mr Allard.
"She was so emotional. She had been so determined to give him the best chance and was happy that he had been born naturally, which meant she wouldn't have to recover for a couple of weeks after a caesarean before beginning the chemotherapy."
The treatment began almost immediately and Mrs Allard spent her time recuperating at home, apart from four visits to her newborn son.
The first was when he was two weeks old, during which a treasured photo of her cuddling him was taken.
Treasured photo: Lorraine and Martyn with Liam. Her father said 'She was a big personality with a heart of gold'
Liam has responded well to his care and it is hoped he will be sent home from hospital in early March.
But his mother's health started to deteriorate just before Christmas and a scan on January 17 revealed the tumours were still growing.
She died the following day. Mr Allard said: "The doctors had said the cancer was no longer curable, although they were trying to shrink the tumours - which they thought might give her a couple of years.
"On the day Lorraine died, she hadn't eaten for two weeks and couldn't drink.
"I laid beside her and she was gripping my hand quite tight.
"We were like that for about half an hour. I could feel against my chest that her heart was slowing down. She just slipped away after that. It was very peaceful.
"When Liam is old enough, I won't tell him that Lorraine gave her life for him, but I will say she made sure he had a good chance of life.
"She told me she didn't want him to feel bad about it."
Mrs Allard's father, Tom Berry, said: "I was overwhelmed by the way Lorraine took it.
"She lived for her husband and children. She was a big personality with a heart of gold."
Babies born at 25 weeks have a 50 per cent chance of survival.
This goes down to 39 per cent at 24 weeks and 17 per cent - or a one in six chance - at 23 weeks.
*********************************************************************************************************************************
I just post the stories, for interest.. for everyone
Lord, what fools these mortals be!
- A Midsummer Night’s Dream, Act III, Scene ii
Voltaire said: "Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities."
H.L.Mencken wrote:"The whole aim of practical politics is to keep the populace alarmed (and hence clamorous to be led to safety) by menacing it with an endless series of hobgoblins, all of them imaginary.â€
Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former. Albert Einstein
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Re: comments are very moo related January 26, 2008 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 3,454 |
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Re: comments are very moo related January 26, 2008 |
I think I see the reason: this was the first son after three daughters. The duh probably talked her into it to get the boy.
"The 34-year-old oilfield technician from St Olaves, near Great Yarmouth, Norfolk, and his 33-year-old wife already had three daughters - Leah, ten, Amy, eight, and Courtney, 20 months - when they learned they were expecting their first boy "
"The 34-year-old oilfield technician from St Olaves, near Great Yarmouth, Norfolk, and his 33-year-old wife already had three daughters - Leah, ten, Amy, eight, and Courtney, 20 months - when they learned they were expecting their first boy "
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Re: comments are very moo related January 28, 2008 | Registered: 17 years ago Posts: 3,897 |
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Re: comments are very moo related January 28, 2008 |
Childfree Chicago Lawyer Wrote:
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> I think I see the reason: this was the first son
> after three daughters. The duh probably talked
> her into it to get the boy.
>
> "The 34-year-old oilfield technician from St
> Olaves, near Great Yarmouth, Norfolk, and his
> 33-year-old wife already had three daughters -
> Leah, ten, Amy, eight, and Courtney, 20 months -
> when they learned they were expecting their first
> boy "
See, this really pisses me off!! It's like a big game to most bree-duhs! If they sprog more than one gender they want the opposite gender, and most of them have as many kyds as it takes to get it. Same with my friend who has four kyds by four different men - She was told that getting pregnant and going thru with it could kill her. However, she chose to have the kid anyway because she had three boys already and this one was a girl. She got very, very ill and her cervix became highly irritated to the point where she developed cancerous cells in her cervix. The problem was diagnosed and resolved early, but nonetheless, she disregarded her health simply to have the almighty opposite sprog!!
My sister even said with her last repugnancy in 2005 that if it wasn't a boy, she was going to abort (which probably would have been a good idea!)
There's actually a commercial where the duh says, "We thought for sure we were going to have a boy, but it turned out to be another girl..." WTF?! There are actual sexual techniques that people have made up to ensure the likelihood of creating a boy or a girl. It's CRAZY!!
Women who "sacrifice" themselves for the sake of a baybee are just incredibly, insanely stupid!! They take on that fucked-up martyr role, thinking it's going to buy them into heaven or what the hell ever and/or they think the life of a baybee is sooooo much more worth their own. F.T.S!
I have NO sympathy either for women with severe mental illnesses who choose go off their meds once they find out they're pregnant just to have the almighty baybee. YOU DUMB-ASSES! A baybee is not worth your mental, physical and emotional health and life!!!
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> I think I see the reason: this was the first son
> after three daughters. The duh probably talked
> her into it to get the boy.
>
> "The 34-year-old oilfield technician from St
> Olaves, near Great Yarmouth, Norfolk, and his
> 33-year-old wife already had three daughters -
> Leah, ten, Amy, eight, and Courtney, 20 months -
> when they learned they were expecting their first
> boy "
See, this really pisses me off!! It's like a big game to most bree-duhs! If they sprog more than one gender they want the opposite gender, and most of them have as many kyds as it takes to get it. Same with my friend who has four kyds by four different men - She was told that getting pregnant and going thru with it could kill her. However, she chose to have the kid anyway because she had three boys already and this one was a girl. She got very, very ill and her cervix became highly irritated to the point where she developed cancerous cells in her cervix. The problem was diagnosed and resolved early, but nonetheless, she disregarded her health simply to have the almighty opposite sprog!!
My sister even said with her last repugnancy in 2005 that if it wasn't a boy, she was going to abort (which probably would have been a good idea!)
There's actually a commercial where the duh says, "We thought for sure we were going to have a boy, but it turned out to be another girl..." WTF?! There are actual sexual techniques that people have made up to ensure the likelihood of creating a boy or a girl. It's CRAZY!!
Women who "sacrifice" themselves for the sake of a baybee are just incredibly, insanely stupid!! They take on that fucked-up martyr role, thinking it's going to buy them into heaven or what the hell ever and/or they think the life of a baybee is sooooo much more worth their own. F.T.S!
I have NO sympathy either for women with severe mental illnesses who choose go off their meds once they find out they're pregnant just to have the almighty baybee. YOU DUMB-ASSES! A baybee is not worth your mental, physical and emotional health and life!!!
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Re: comments are very moo related January 28, 2008 | Registered: 17 years ago Posts: 4,117 |
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Re: comments are very moo related January 28, 2008 |
Saw this posted over at LJ. Someone pointed out that if she had chosen chemo over the pregnancy, she would have spent her last (short) years being violently ill and having the quality of life of a cow turd. (Okay, that last is my interpretation.) I'm not saying I agree with her decision, but it was pretty much a lose/lose decision anyways and since I'm one of those people who would most likely refuse extreme intervention in the face of fatal diseases and illness, I can almost understand why she did what she did.
That being said, that youngest sprog is going to be hated (at least subsconsciously) by his older sibs for taking away their mother.
That being said, that youngest sprog is going to be hated (at least subsconsciously) by his older sibs for taking away their mother.
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