bell_flower Wrote:
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> Welcome aboard, Rose. We are glad to have you
> here.
Thank you! It is such a relief. It makes me mad I can't go to any of the meet up b/c of the husband....
>
> Is your husband upset because you mentioned
> personal matters (although you were the one who
> was asked, not vice versa) or is he upset because
> you don't want kids?
Both. But the new father asked me- I didn't volunteer it...
>
> It sounds like your husband needs a big smack with
> the clue bat. There is nothing worse, IMHO, than
> an over-40 man with baby rabies especially
> because: 1. it's not his body being ruined; 2.
> most duds stay around for the Kodak moments and
> phone in the rest.
That's totally him. He doesn't deal on the cat box!!!!
>
>
>
> Turned out, not only did he want a kid, he was
> cheating with a married woman who had fertility
> problems. He and she were having some kind of
> 'let's leave our uncaring spouses and have a
> baybee" fantasy.
Oh, god. I'm sorry.
>
> He lied to me until the bitter end and when I
> discovered his affair, I kicked his ass to the
> curb and moved on. It was really rough because it
> was my second marriage, but there are worse things
> than being divorced twice/ Being married to a
> lying, cheating WannaBreed is but one of those
> things.
My second marriage too. If I'd stayed married to #1 I'd have eaten a bullet.
>
> When I was in limbo, where he was whining about
> baybees but wouldn't tell me what was really going
> on, those were by far the hardest three months of
> my life. (He was really sneaky with his affair. I
> hired a detective and it still took 3 months to
> bust his ass.)
#2 thinks a baybee will save our marriage. Right.
>
> You didn't ask, but my recommendation is to cut
> your losses. When I got my own place the sense of
> relief was wonderful. No more tiptoeing around
> his moods, etc. No more whining. I firmly
> believe the kid issue is something you can't
> compromise on. Better to go your separate ways.
I agree but am in so much debt I need to save some cash, kill a few c/cards and figure out plan B. (he owns his own business and i do the bookkeeping for the household so I can divert funds without notice.)
>
>
> Your husband sounds like a selfish turd. Anyone
> who wants their partner to crank out a kid they
> don't want has serious problems.
That's not the half of it......
>
> As a postscript to my story, I found a wonderful
> NMNK man who dotes on me. My ex did not marry his
> whore, mostly because her husband found out about
> the affair and she went back to him.
Yay! that makes my day.
>
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> Although I was hurt at the time, the dude did me a
> favor. I didn't have to listen to his whining,
> wishy-washy Wanna Breed ass. And let me tell you,
> his desire to have a kid was totally irrational.
> He would have been a disaster as a father: he had
> poor impulse/emotional control, and he was a drama
> queen, high maintenance kind of person.
Perhaps they are related...
>
> And as far as your friends go, they probably have
> a shitty marriage and need a chyyyyld as a
> distraction.
The husband is italian. It's practically a job requirement. She did it to shut him up.
It seems like the couples who are
> the most desperate to have a baybee and endure all
> these medical procedures have the shittiest
> marriages. At least, that's been my experience
> IRL. The wives, particularly, are insecure. They
> know that a kid is the best way to hook into a
> man's wallet, or they just want a socially
> acceptable reason to drop out of the work force
> and suck off some mayn.
She produced an heir, so she can hit the showers......