Gyne is a breeder brained jagoff

I saw this gyne for the first time last night, and his initial breeder disorientation of meeting an actual married patient that doesn't want kids & whose husband actually had a vasectomy, he starts reaming me about my weight out of the blue, "I know I just met you and don't take offense but..."

(Of course, he has a huge beach ball gut so go figure)

By now he didn't deserve my explanation, but I told him about all the stress I've been under and to that he informed me that everyone has stress but I should have less stress/time to workout/diet (which I do) b/c I don't have kids.

I think he just had his mind made up about me after he knew I was CF. I realized he's just a crotchfruit farmer who doesn't give a shit about me since I'm not CF & probably even resents me.

Besides all that, he didn't even use a glove (I saw that after the fact) and talked at the top of his voice to me at the front desk with nurses/other patients around. He was even talking to another patient through the open exam room door behind me.

When the nurse gave me a postcard to write my address on for next year's reminder, I told her just keep it. He was sitting right there so I think he heard me. I'm going to send a nice letter about him to my HMO group, which they will probably ignore but I'll feel better.

grizzlycat Wrote:
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> I saw this gyne for the first time last night, and
> his initial breeder disorientation of meeting an
> actual married patient that doesn't want kids &
> whose husband actually had a vasectomy, he starts
> reaming me about my weight out of the blue, "I
> know I just met you and don't take offense
> but..."
>
> (Of course, he has a huge beach ball gut so go
> figure)
>
> By now he didn't deserve my explanation, but I
> told him about all the stress I've been under and
> to that he informed me that everyone has stress
> but I should have less stress/time to workout/diet
> (which I do) b/c I don't have kids.
>
> I think he just had his mind made up about me
> after he knew I was CF. I realized he's just a
> crotchfruit farmer who doesn't give a shit about
> me since I'm not CF & probably even resents me.
>
> Besides all that, he didn't even use a glove (I
> saw that after the fact) and talked at the top of
> his voice to me at the front desk with
> nurses/other patients around. He was even talking
> to another patient through the open exam room door
> behind me.
>
> When the nurse gave me a postcard to write my
> address on for next year's reminder, I told her
> just keep it. He was sitting right there so I
> think he heard me. I'm going to send a nice letter
> about him to my HMO group, which they will
> probably ignore but I'll feel better.

I have problems with my breeder gyn too but I got some good advice here so when my reminder card comes I'm going online to get a new one. Who needs that shit? She says:"No babies yet? Why?" MYOB, quack.

Gyn/ob is just one big cattle inspection to ensure that all women's bodies are in good, working order to keep us well-stacked with fresh crops of human species.

So this literally makes women livestock.

MOOOOOOOOOO!!!

we dont really have that in the UK. if your not well go doctor.. then they can help or send u to a specialist..

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Lord, what fools these mortals be!
- A Midsummer Night’s Dream, Act III, Scene ii

Voltaire said: "Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities."

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Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former. Albert Einstein

Fuck them. I'd write a letter also. How unprofessional.

I had the most abhorrent experience in the waiting room at my gyn office the other day. I was sitting next to a woman who kept cracking her gum and another woman who kept spitting into a plastic cup. I was so disgusted, I got up and moved to the other side of the room.

There were kids in the waiting room who behaved better than these 2 fucking hillbillies!

I blasted a nurse practitioner in 1997 when I was having more PAPS done due to an abnormal one which resulted in the LEEP procedure. This ob-gyn was always booked and his wait time could make the most serene person flip out so I was glad when he got an NP. I was excited as that would mean more appointments available and less waiting.

I was wrong. This doc had done my second tubal. Well...the NP made a snide remark when she was doing the usual exam and asked WHY in the world I got a tubal ligation. I told the dummy that a tubal was to prevent pregnancy without being beholden to the Pill until I hit menopause and said that someone with her licensing should know why women chose sterlizations.

Of course, she asked WHY I did not want those babies. After I scoffed at her, she admitted how being the single mother of an 18/month-old was not an easy life. Gee...Daddio did not even stay until the cribling reached two years old! I think the dumb twat was PO'd that I escaped that life. Her name did not last on the doc's door that long. I complained to the office but I doubt a sole complaint got her sacked.

When I mentioned this on a Yahoo feminist board, the mod - a single moo - acted like *I* had the problem. Looks like I encountered another breeder who was PISSED that I had the sense to not breed. That is so common. Many breeder feminists do not want to hear from childfree feminists.

I am a real bitch who does not take a lot of shit from breeders or anyone else. Many may not like it but I am not the one muttering how I should have said this or should have said that...

He has no idea how much free time you have in your life, or how busy you are or aren't. Just because someone doesn't have kids, doesn't mean they have loads of free time. What a judgmental jerk.

This is why I quit seeing several female ob/gyns that I used to go to. They may sooooooo many judgments of patients based on marital status and child status.

What I hated when I was single, was the ob/gyn would notice on my chart that I'm not married, and then insist on testing me for every kind of STD that you can think of. Their thinking is: single woman = slut. Never mind the fact that most of the time, I wasn't even in a relationship with anyone; and I practice safe sex and had already been tested for these things.

They put women into categories and boxes, and I hate that.

And its true, some ob/gyns only prefer obstetrics, they want mainly to work with pregnant patients and like the excitement of childbirth and labor. If you are not a pregnant patient, you will NOT be a priority patient and that is a fact. I have been treated with little respect, like I'm some stupid slut by ob/gyns. So I would often go several years without even seeing one of these doctors. I often wonder if they realize their negative attitudes towards patients will affect their bottom line - money.

You'd be better of seeing someone who just specializes in gynecology alone, not obstetrics as well. Because with an ob/gyn, if you aren't a mommy, you aren't worth their time.

Also with regards to feminism: I find that so much of feminism these days caters to mommies and so I'm really turned off by it.

What really pissed me off is when NOW decided to pay for Andrea Yates defense and even advocated that she be released from prison - all because she is a MOO. If she hadn't been a MOO, but a childless woman who just happened to be mentally ill and murder 5 children, there is no way that NOW or any other organization would have championed her cause.

casseyrod Wrote:
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> Also with regards to feminism: I find that so much
> of feminism these days caters to mommies and so
> I'm really turned off by it.
>
> What really pissed me off is when NOW decided to
> pay for Andrea Yates defense and even advocated
> that she be released from prison - all because she
> is a MOO. If she hadn't been a MOO, but a
> childless woman who just happened to be mentally
> ill and murder 5 children, there is no way that
> NOW or any other organization would have
> championed her cause.

That is why I never renewed my membership to NOW in 2001. I was the VP for the local Orlando NOW chapter from 1999-2000. It was hard to get support for volunteers to help at abortion clinics to be there for the patients and staff. No one wanted to come to meetings unless it was 'fun'. One moo wanted our monthly meetings to have dumb shit like pinback button making and t-shirt art. Like that sort of mindless entertainment helps women! The only time a newcomer would show up was to look for free legal work for a custody battle. What broke it for me was the wah-wahs :bawl for a divorced moo in Boca Raton, FL who was already getting $1500 per month in child support but felt she was owed more so she could quit her job and return to college. The bitch was already a practicing therapist.

I haven't actually researched this, but I figure that the number of docs who just specialize in JUST gyno is pretty small. I've always thought that OB/Gyn should not be combined. It's just an indicator that society views women as baby machines and little else, like Banshee and casseyrod points out.

Grizzlycat, I am so sorry that happened to you. Who knows? The letter you write might be the last straw on the camel's back. From the way he sounds, he must have done this shit in the past.

casseyrod Wrote:
>
> They put women into categories and boxes, and I
> hate that.
>
> And its true, some ob/gyns only prefer obstetrics,
> they want mainly to work with pregnant patients
> and like the excitement of childbirth and labor.
> If you are not a pregnant patient, you will NOT be
> a priority patient and that is a fact. I have been
> treated with little respect, like I'm some stupid
> slut by ob/gyns. So I would often go several years
> without even seeing one of these doctors. I often
> wonder if they realize their negative attitudes
> towards patients will affect their bottom line -
> money.
>
> You'd be better of seeing someone who just
> specializes in gynecology alone, not obstetrics as
> well. Because with an ob/gyn, if you aren't a
> mommy, you aren't worth their time.

I felt just like that, a second class cow. Especially when he literally shoved his hand in & out in 2 seconds like he was grabbing for his keys in his pocket. Without a fucking glove. ,

I guess I've been lucky so far. My last Gyne was awesome. He never asked for my marital status or even hinted at breeding. I felt like an actual patient.

married with rabbits Wrote:

> I know some docs are fanatical, but still, after
> so many years in the profession, I figure many
> would welcome the patients who are little to no
> hassle at all. You know, no ultrasounds, none of
> the typical pregnancy concerns from the freaked
> out first time moms, etc.

MwR,
In our minds that makes sense, but I think these types go for the big ticket OB patients. This particular tool even calls his own patients who owe $$, and has his MA's doing it, too!!!

I actually work in the billing service he uses, and our policy of just sending letters vs. calling patients is to soft for his greedy ass, so he does it himself. If I mentioned the word infertile I'd hear ca-ching & he'd be buying a new RV on me.

Nour Wrote:
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> I haven't actually researched this, but I figure
> that the number of docs who just specialize in
> JUST gyno is pretty small. I've always thought
> that OB/Gyn should not be combined. It's just an
> indicator that society views women as baby
> machines and little else, like Banshee and
> casseyrod points out.

I feel the same way. Anytime I see a women's clinic, the logo has a mother suckling that baby. Soceity does think women are nothing but baby machines when childbearing is automatically linked with women's health. I am certain many ob-gyns practice both to get the revenue flowing in as there is mega-money to be made from birthing babies. Yet, some gyns have stopped 'OB' medicine due to the high cost of malpractice insurance.

grizzlycat Wrote:
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> MwR,
> In our minds that makes sense, but I think these
> types go for the big ticket OB patients. This
> particular tool even calls his own patients who
> owe $$, and has his MA's doing it, too!!!
>
> I actually work in the billing service he uses,
> and our policy of just sending letters vs. calling
> patients is to soft for his greedy ass, so he does
> it himself. If I mentioned the word infertile I'd
> hear ca-ching & he'd be buying a new RV on me.

Do these moos actually pay???

This doctor thinks you should worry about your weight, but what you really need to worry about is getting an infection as a result of his not wearing a glove. Did he even wash his hands first?

Seriously, if a doctor is not using a glove you need to report this to your state medical board.

I hate to stereotype, but overall, the most negative experiences I've had were with female ob/gyns.

I now have a wonderful and understanding male ob/gyn. There ARE some out there.

My experience with the female ob/gyns is that they were only in it for the excitement of childbirth and babeeze. They also tend to treat women like our bodies are just for breeding.

This is pretty evident by the current trend of OB/gyns "warning" women in their 30s about their diminishing fertility. Some people even want it to be standard part of OB practice to "warn" the 30-something women. As if having babies is the only thing women should want or care about.

Duh! Most women with half a brain are well aware that fertility does not last forever. Some women don't want kids anyway, so doctors should not ass-ume they do.

I agree to about the male thing. Both tubals were done by male ob-gyns. I can imgaine the hassles of getting a woman doc to do the procedure. She probably would be crying in the office of how terrible it is to not want those squirming babies. After the tubal, I got Accutane for acne. A female dermatolgist screamed how she never EVER prescribed that antibiotic for women in chyuld-bearing years because of those birth defects. Cunt never would listen to me when I mentioned the tubal or look at the chart, which had everything as I was with Kaiser-Permanente at the time. I made an appoinment with a male dermatologist weeks later. He looked at the chart; he was happy with the tubal which meant no issue; I got the 'script.

I also was raked over the coals by a female doctor when she found out I had been taking acutane....about how selfish and stupid I was, didn't I know acutane causes birth defects? Never mind the fact I wasn't trying to get pregnant anyway.

Anyway, no more female doctors for me.

My experience is opposite from y'alls. I couldn't find a decent male ob/gyn to save my life - all of them were horribly condescending with the rottenest attitudes you could imagine. My saving grace was a wonderful Jewish CF ob/gyn female. Guess it's anyones' guess, just have to shop around.

I will add however to the OP that this man needs to be reported to your State Medical Examining Board for not using gloves. You must demand that you be tested for a multitude of diseases which you may have been exposed to by his examining you without using proper BSI (Body Substance Isolation). He may have examined several women before you, not having used gloves on them either or even properly washing his hands between patients. I would be extremely concerned if I were you and would take immediate action.

married with rabbits Wrote:

>
> This should be another fine example of why people
> shouldn't go off carelessly having babies. People
> shudder at the horror of what happened in that
> situation in one breath, then chide people who
> outright don't want kids in another. Andrea wasn't
> the only lady who heard voices and then killed her
> kids. What about that lady that said Jesus/God
> spoke to her through DirecTV. Oh yeah, and then
> the one who killed her kids with rocks. I could go
> on and on sadly...
>
> I have a friend who once said, "I swear, I think I
> might give my kid shaking baby syndrome or
> something like that." She doesn't want kids, like
> them, or consider herself to be at all maternal.
> She's going to get plenty of idiots pressuring her
> to have kids despite the fact that she admits she
> wouldn't give a child the proper care or patience
> it would need. That's why she's planning on not
> having any.
>
> These baby humpers are sick when they insist that
> children must be created then born into situations
> that don't want them or can't handle them or both.
> Why? So that the mom or dad will crack,
> abandon/neglect/torture/kill the child and then
> you can point the finger?


Rabbits, believe it or not, I personally believe that the childfree love and care more about children than the breeders. But damn if the logic of that, NOT having kids if you do not want them or have the capacity to take care of them, gets inside the breeder brain... they don't get it.

Breeders think of THEMSELVES first and their children somewhere after the fuck of the week or the SUV.

You can't win with breeders. If Andrea Yates had told that dick of a prick husband of hers, NO KIDS FUCK OFF, the breeders would witch hunt her just like they do the rest of us childfrees, the harassment in the gynecology offices, the harassment on the job, the harassment by family members and so on. You cannot tell me for one minute that Andrea REALLY WANTED KIDS. No, I believe that Andrea, aside from being seriously mentally ill, probably had no desire for children at all. But the difference between the Andreas of the world and us is that we have the strength to beat back the mobs of breeders to stay childfree, she didn't. That's not to say all people who are childfree are potential Andreas, or even close, but one thing we do have in common is that we know we don't want them and we know we aren't suited for the job.

Breeders..

can't live with em..

can't live with em.

Yeah, you hit the nail on the head. It seems female medical professionals have major attitude. I don't get this from male doctors. I don't know why, I just don't. Perhaps women have to struggle harder to be accepted in the medical field and that's part of what causes them to cop an arrogant, know-it-all attitude. I really do not know.

^^Not my experience at all. My mom and I both see different women, and hers is as wonderful as mine. Men ob/gyn's have been a royal pain in my fucking ass, I'm glad to be rid of them but I realize there are butt-heads in both sexes.

casseyrod Wrote:
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> This doctor thinks you should worry about your
> weight, but what you really need to worry about is
> getting an infection as a result of his not
> wearing a glove. Did he even wash his hands
> first?
>
> Seriously, if a doctor is not using a glove you
> need to report this to your state medical board.

I honestly did not see him wash his hands before he shoved his arm up my crotch. I sat up as soon as he yanked his arm out (which hurt by the way) & saw him holding his hand up like it was dirty or sterile, but I didn't see him wash it then either. There was a sink right in the office, too.

He seemed like the pompous kind that thinks he is above all that hand washing nonsense unless there's blood or if he suspects a disease.

Bad luck for him that I'm taking a class on HIPPA laws & other such legal/medical things so I know right where & who to report him to.

I must have avoided a lot of these type of gynos
(gynosaur=breed till you can't cope???)
Not to discount anyone here, I have no doubt that these comments were made.
After all, (provided all goes well), they make a lot of $$$ off of breeders. This may account for some of the comments, just disguised as bingos of one sort or other.
I've hit meno now, so I doubt I'll get any comment from anyone. I suppose I could get a 'in retrospect' type of comment but I've never heard that either.
I've always made it QUITE CLEAR that I don't want kids, don't like the idea of having any (although I can have fun with other peoples kids until they get noxious). So far, no one has countered me in any way, shape, or form.

what makes this look like spam:
I must have avoided a lot of these type of gynos
(gynosaur=breed till you can't cope???)
Not to discount anyone here, I have no doubt that these comments were made.
After all, (provided all goes well), they make a lot of $$$ off of breeders. This may account for some of the comments, just disguised as bingos of one sort or other.
I've hit meno now, so I doubt I'll get any comment from anyone. I suppose I could get a 'in retrospect' type of comment but I've never heard that either.
I've always made it QUITE CLEAR that I don't want kids, don't like the idea of having any (although I can have fun with other peoples kids until they get noxious). So far, no one has countered me in any way, shape, or form.