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You’re ready to date again and looking forward to bringing romance and fun with another adult back into your life. What are the issues you might like to remember to continue in a positive and upbeat frame of mind? You’re probably feeling excited and optimistic - you could also be feeling nervous. It can be hard to step back into the dating scene when you have children. Before you became a parent the only person you had to worry about was yourself. Now, you have to balance your needs with what’s best for your kids. And if you’ve gone through a relationship break down, this may have left you feeling low in self esteem and confidence. You may have forgotten how to flirt, how to get to know someone, how to ask them out or make it clear you’d like to be asked. But even if you can’t approach dating as if you were a single, that needn’t stop you. Dating again is for you, and these are the tips to make it easy.
Recognise how your kids may act
Most people and virtually all kids find it hard to say when they’re sad, angry, scared or confused. What they are likely to do is to act out their emotions. Children may react by
acting younger than their age
throwing tantrums
becoming clingy and fretful
refusing food, being picky or eating too much
having difficulty sleeping or in waking up
Teenagers may
sulk and shout
experiment with drugs, drink, early sex
If children start acting badly, what is underneath their behaviour is often a need for attention, acceptance, and appreciation. You can help them by;
talking openly about the change or loss that meant you’re a single parent family
talking about your decision to find new friends
asking for any questions they may have about this and answering them
reassuring them it will not change your feelings for them or your relationship with them
helping them show their feelings
sharing your own feelings with them
telling them it’s OK to feel angry or confused
giving them plenty of time and attention
helping them keep in touch with people, places, things that matter to them
giving them love, reassurance, support
Look after yourself
Single parents need to look after themselves, if for no other reason than to make sure they are able to care for their family. If the children are away with other family, indulge yourself.
take a walk
go to the gym or for a run
meet a friend for coffee or a drink
If they’re around, set them up with some activities, tell them you need half an hour uninterrupted and then;
listen to music
have a bath, with candles and a glass of something nice
read a newspaper, magazine or book
go on your computer
chat with an internet buddy
call a friend
plan a holiday
watch a favourite TV programme
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Arrange with friends and family to let you have time off some evenings and weekends for your kids to have the fun and experience of being with other people, and you the time to recharge your batteries. You don’t do your children any good by denying yourself a life or pleasure.
Take your time, think it through and all of you will benefit when you begin dating again!
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