TXGal Wrote:
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> Well, it's finally happened. Good friend whom
> I've known for 8 or 9 years had a kid. I became
> friends w/her mainly b/c, at the time, I felt
> kinda bad for her. She was dorky and from another
> country, so she didn't fit in very well and had
> only her husband around. Her husband was pals
> w/my boyfriend at the time, which is how we met in
> the first place.
>
> Anyway, she turned out to be a pretty good friend
> for the most part, except that she was sometimes
> capable of passive aggression and smugness when it
> came to certain lifestyle topics (i.e. religion.
> She and her husband exchanged smug, knowing
> glances when I said I wanted to have more Jewish
> people in my life. They're Buddhist, so you'd
> think they'd be more open-minded). She respects
> the fact that not everyone's path to fulfillment
> involves having children. Nevertheless, I finally
> had to force myself to go visit her last weekend,
> 2 mos. after baby was born. I had to force myself
> b/c I was trying to be a good friend. Quite
> frankly, I don't give a flying fuck that she had a
> baby.
>
> Now, she knows DAMN WELL how I feel about kids and
> the like, but towards the end of the visit she had
> to slip in a "I noticed you didn't ask to hold the
> baybeeee" like it was some kind of SURPRISE to
> her, or some shit. That made me feel like I had
> to defend myself so I said something to the effect
> of "It's not my thing" or some such. Don't think
> I'll be calling her anymore!
TX, that was a pretty nasty thing to do- throw the kid at you. I'd lose her # too since there seems to be another agenda here, and in other areas.