This would take up it's own website to retell it accurately and properly, but I'll do my best to synopsize a real life event I was faced with regarding a boyfriend's 9 y/o kyd. Circa, 1989, I was recently divorced and moved into an apartment. There was this cute guy neighbor who was about my age (so he claimed) who invited me over for dinner and he was a real charmer and appeared to "have it all", but there sat his 9 y/o kyd. I figured he was a weekend duddy but then he relayed this horrible story of the abuse his son had received at the hands of his vicious mother, but no one would believe them and they were basically "in hiding". The boy was a good kyd but he had next to no supervision as his duddy worked (or so he said) well into the night and he ended up knocking on my door all of the time wanting something to eat or drink, wanting me to sign for him to swim at the pool, or just to hang out/watch tv, etc......It escalated from there in that kyd was over there NONSTOP for a couple of weeks. Much like an unwanted stray animal, it's best not to feed it. Apparently the man thought that the kyd would be his ticket into a breeder wannabee's heart (and home and bank accounts) but he picked the wrong sucker when he honed in on me. Suddenly, his stories of moomie abuse started to be mixed with, "well, maybe she wasn't as bad as I had thought", etc......He outright admitted that these abuse allegations had never been investigated, that the wife had remarried to a military officer YEARS ago, AND that they also had a 12 y/o daughter. He also managd to leave out his non payment of child support, his numerous arrests and prior convictions, his various alias', and that he had stolen an estimated 50k AND an inherited house from the first wife (this kyd's mom), but that doesn't begin to touch what he had stolen from his OTHER 3 wives. This guy claimed to be 29 years old, but my guess is that he was closer to 40, although I can't be certain.
After a few months of conducting my own investigation (and dodging father and son) which included talking to the boy, I determined that he had simply kept him after a summer vacation visitation had ended in order to use him as "woman bait". NONE of the allegations had been true and his mother had been trying to track him down for nearly three years which was difficult to do back then under the circumstances (parental abduction) and especially difficult considering they had been stationed in Germany. Also, by then she had "their own" new set of kyds and I don't think that her husband cared much about raising her prior spawn. It also didn't help that duddy had never paid a dime in child support so no trace there, never worked under his own name(numerous alias')and had moved at LEAST ten times prior to meeting me and after what amounts to a parental abduction. The bio mother contacted me, sent me airfare for the kyd, and I packed his ass up and put him on a plane to New Mexico from Florida. The kyd was ESTATIC that he was "going home" and although duddy pretended to be upset at me for a few minutes after he learned that the kyd was flying across country, he seemed to take my threat to call the police a bit seriously. What absolutely FLOORED me was that he now took the "angle" that now that the boy was out of the way that he and I could be together. Yeah, rriiiiiggghhhhhht. My work was done once that kyd landed safely in Albuquerque.
The last time I saw him was about 2 years later and he was with a 19 or 20 y/o girl with a new baybee. I felt so sorry for that girl as I knew the life that she had ahead of her, what with living with a con artist/criminal and all. Among other crimes he had committed, he had committed arson, fraud, identity theft, and various other type crimes with the motive being money, merchandise theft, theft of rental space/time, or insurance scams. I heard that in late 1998 he had perpetrated a slip-fall at a Walmart down in Florida in hopes of yet another settlement. Unfortunately for him they got his "fall" on tape, were able to connect him to several other prior "slip- falls" at walmarts in the region, and threatened him with legal action so he withdrew his suit. He got a surprise this time in that he actually did some permanent damage to his leg and will forever be disabled by it.
So, if even a goodlooking con artist with a pretty good game tries to dump a kyd on me and I can put his young ass on Delta and never look back, then I feel reasonably certain that I could send most any kyd packing, but since then I have just prevented the problem in the first place. I know in my heart that living with me would NOT be good for the kyd, so I suppose that's how I can get rid of them, ship them back and/or just say no with no apparent emotion, regret, or tears.