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Researchers have found that high self-esteem does not guarantee happiness and is often linked with depression because those whose self-esteem is elevated on false or flimsy pretexts – e.g., being told that everyone adores you or being told you’re perfect just for existing – are highly susceptible to all perceived slights. So-called beneficiaries of the self-esteem boom have been brainwashed to believe they deserve the best grades, the best treatment, the best of everything. Thus they are very easily offended, angered, disappointed, and crushed by even the faintest criticism. Psychologists call that kind of sky-high but baseless self-esteem “fragile self-esteem.†Its healthy opposite is achievement-based “secure self-esteem†– otherwise known as earned self-respect – which is not necessarily sky-high, but less likely to leave its possessors sulking and raging when the real world delivers its usual harsh doses of reality.
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Researchers have found that high self-esteem does not guarantee happiness and is often linked with depression because those whose self-esteem is elevated on false or flimsy pretexts – e.g., being told that everyone adores you or being told you’re perfect just for existing – are highly susceptible to all perceived slights. So-called beneficiaries of the self-esteem boom have been brainwashed to believe they deserve the best grades, the best treatment, the best of everything. Thus they are very easily offended, angered, disappointed, and crushed by even the faintest criticism. Psychologists call that kind of sky-high but baseless self-esteem “fragile self-esteem.†Its healthy opposite is achievement-based “secure self-esteem†– otherwise known as earned self-respect – which is not necessarily sky-high, but less likely to leave its possessors sulking and raging when the real world delivers its usual harsh doses of reality.
Am I the only one who sees this paragraph as being applicable to a certain young man in California who shot up and stabbed a bunch of people a few days ago? A young man driving a Beamer who felt *entitled* to sex and got all stabby when he didn't get it? That's your "Self Esteem" movement personified, IMHO.
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This is a big part of these issues too - The Fawning Moo. Who turns her Son into a Quasi Lover.
There's an Old Saying: No one's gonna love you like your Mama did.
I think this is an issue. In the extreme cases it's as if these Cows are committing at least emotional incest against their sons. And it always seems to include fostering delusions of grandeur in the kid. Sonny Boy can do NO wrong! And, in fact - he's The Bestest Person! In the whole world! Mommy SAID SO.
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This is a big part of these issues too - The Fawning Moo. Who turns her Son into a Quasi Lover.
There's an Old Saying: No one's gonna love you like your Mama did.
I think this is an issue. In the extreme cases it's as if these Cows are committing at least emotional incest against their sons. And it always seems to include fostering delusions of grandeur in the kid. Sonny Boy can do NO wrong! And, in fact - he's The Bestest Person! In the whole world! Mommy SAID SO.
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This is trickle down self-esteem for moos. They demand udder rubs for pinching out loaves. They then want to coddle and spoil their fuck trophies, giving their brats accolades just for existing.
I mean, aren't their loaves just AMAAAAAZING!??!?! We can't hurt its widdle feelings so we just have to go on and on and on about what a winner it is!!!!! And of course I pinched out a loaf, that makes me sooooo AMAAAAAZING too! Cant you see????? If the loaves are awesome and pwecious, the moos must be too!!!
When anyone gets rewards and benefits without working for it, they don't appreciate anything and feel the world owes them just for existing. This everyone's a winner bullshit is going to create a whole generation of entitled monsters that won't do dick.
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If we still have any HR staff or managers here on Bratfree, I'd love to hear stories about entitled young adults with inflated self-esteem who went to pieces or quit after a colleague's or boss's criticism. Other sites and blogs allude to such happening. Hearing firsthand of examples would be entertaining.
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It's all good - this subject is probably even more relevant now than it was when it was originally shared because there are so, so, so, SO many grown adults out there who meet this description. People who have way too much self-esteem because they were pampered/spoiled as kids who go fucking nuts when they don't get their own way. Like the thing from a few years ago about the incel who ran over a bunch of random pedestrians - most of whom were women - because no women would sleep with him and he felt taking his frustrations out on strangers was justified.