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catharsist
Being trans* is an extremely intricate identity thing that has literally NOTHING to do with sexuality. Sex is easy to understand, the craziest kinks become understandable or at least definable in a matter of seconds. But personal identity, gender non-conformity AND medical body politics? That's harder. WAY harder.
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nightfire
I guess my question is:
What is it like to feel gender?
Re: great and terrible news November 21, 2014 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 5,641 |
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catharsist
Your genitalia determined every detail of your life since before you were born, and I mean this literally (ahem, gender reveals). Isn't that stupid? It comes at a price for those that are trans*. When that shit doesn't feel right, it really DOESN'T.
Re: great and terrible news November 21, 2014 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 464 |
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randomcfchick
Sigh. I keep thinking that it shouldn't be, though. Sure, people are used to the binary, but people whose body doesn't match their gender ID, or who exist quite happily outside the binary, are NOT some type of threat. I fail at understanding why so many people automatically label a trans person as WRONG.
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yurble
Our language tells us that the single most important identifying feature a person has is gender. Imagine if, when you wrote a letter, you had to know what colour of eyes that person had, because you would use different forms of address depending on whether they were blue, green, or brown. (In this analogy, the person with hazel eyes is trans.) It sounds ridiculous, doesn't it, to divide people into categories based on eye colour? And yet that is effectively what our language does with gender, it's just hard to see it because we're used to it. (Actually, our language does it with sex, not gender, evidenced by how hard it is for some people to use a pronoun that corresponds with a person's gender but not sex.)
But what's so important about knowing what sexual organs a person has, unless you're trying to figure out if you'd like to have sex with that person? If you believe, as I do, that men and women should be equal, there's no reason for gendered pronouns, it's just a legacy of a sexist time. Knowing that I should use the feminine pronoun to refer to you doesn't tell me anything useful about you. It barely helps me find you in a room ("wearing a green shirt" would probably be a more helpful clue in a group) and it doesn't tell me about you as a person: are you kind, shy, or someone who likes to read?
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efsb
Wow, congrats on your upcoming sterilization!
As for the other news, well, that just makes me angry. Yeah, I know parent is an adult and is free to make their own decision, but disowning their child because they’ve chosen an alternative lifestyle is stupid. So much for there being no greater love than the love between a parent and child. Isn’t that what the breeders always say? They also claim they’ll lurve their chyld no matter what.
Oh yeah, breeders are the biggest bullshitters on the planet. I know it probably hurts, but you can always find a new family. Blood is not thicker than water.