A 20 year old know it all who is STILL a brat

"My boyfriend and I were attending evening service this previous Sunday when a family in front of us sparked some rather *sensitive* memories of my childhood.........They listen to service part of the time but get distracted by there short attention spans and begin drawing on their handouts and thats when Daddy's parenting skills become displayed for everyone to see ....

He lifts up the little boy by scooping his hand under his shoulder and grabbing his rear with the other hand and moves him to the other side of the pew and begins to scold him for not paying attention..... Then the youngest daughter starts laying across the pew so her mother starts smacking on her legs with a hymnal......This results in Dad walking down to them and grabbing each of their arms escorting them out of the sanctuary.... when they returned both kids had tears streaming down their faces .

Following service my boyfriend and I went to Dairy Queen while in line I realize that the same family from church is in front of us and the middle daughter is on tip toes attempting to look over the counter to see the ice cream being made.... father notices and starts slapping her across the back with his hand....and tells her to go wait in the van with the door opened (keep in mind its only 101 degrees out) The family goes on to order their food and then sits down to pray before they eat and then the Mom goes out to get little girl and they set her down with the family and she has to watch them eat because she lost her privilege for food !!!!!!!!

Today over lunch I shared with my Mom what happened and she kept nodding and saying the parents were absolutely correct in what they did and told me that she prays that my future children won't turn out to be heathens She says that I live with a worldy mind set vs. one of the word. So of course, i begin to defend myself and tell her why I believe the way these children were treated were wrong and how I know from first hand experience (referring to how I was raised) that its emotionally damaging and causes social anxiety and trust issues when getting older.


Then she starts *yelling* at me telling me that I was raised in a wonderful Christian home and it breaks her heart to see how far off the path I have gone I got up from the table and said, "this is exactly why I can't have a relationship with you" So i go up to my room (yeah, im 20 still live at home...working on that) and begin to pray (its been a very bad week, Dad lost three of his men in a tragic mining incident).

*sidenote* Yesterday, I had an appointment with the bank to get a loan for school and books but my dad wasn't able to show due to a press conference so my Mom had to go with me (needed a co-signer). Well they told my mom since she is at home and doesn't have an income she can't co-sign for me and I turned to her and whispered I guess your going to have to get a job with me (I in no way meant this to be smart, or to hurt feelings ) and she looked at me like I had just slapped her or something....Flash forward to being in my room today...

Moments, after excusing myself from the table and going upstairs to my room my Mom comes stomping up the stairs swings my door open as hard as she can and dumps a dirty laundry basket on my head and says, "See I don't work, and I'm sure that mom at church doesn't either. So why don't you hang out NOT working like the rest of us and then she slams my door .

I don't know what to think anymore..."

Good Lord, what a fucking trainwreck. Everybody mentioned in that story should be sterilized promptly. Fucking nut-bag religious psychopaths.

The 20 year old smart ass sounds like she didn't have enough smacks in the face growing up. Oh well, it's never too late to start.

I am particularly offended by a young adult, such as this woman who has never lived away from home, passing judgements against grown people who are paying their own ways whether it's about their jobs, marriages, or in this case child rearing. She isn't credit worthy on her own and her mother takes time out of her day to co-sign her school loan, but because of antiquated bullshit rule that SHE is not the "bread winner" she is unable to do so, the daughter OUTRIGHT shows her disrespect. I also couldn't help but notice when she said, "I excused myself from the table." Does she think she is at a dinner party or a restaurant? She NEEDS to be washing the dinner dishes, not "excusing herself" and retiring to her room like she is royalty. She doesn't work, doesn't cook or clean, and apparently doesn't do her own laundry, NOR does she pay rent, yet she has time to sit in judgement of a famblee at church and continue her high and mighty attitude at the Dairy Queen?

I have to wonder why a 20 y/o single woman with no children is posting on a "GD" (gentle discipline)parenting section of a fundie moomie site in the first place. She probably has delusions that when she has 'one of her own", then everything will be perfect. This girl is a raging brat with a nasty judgemental attitude and sense of entitlement, and although it may be a bit late in the game for her, I am glad her mother dumped that dirty laundry on her fat head.

"My boyfriend and I were attending evening service this previous Sunday..."



"... tells her to go wait in the van with the door opened (keep in mind its only 101 degrees out)"

Most evening services begin at 6 or 7 and last an hour or two. Unless she's living in an area with a serious heat wave, I doubt it would be 101 degrees at that time of evening. There's no way the kid would die of heat exposure that late in the day.

I think this girl is full of shit, and is either embellishing this part of the story or totally making it up to grab the attention of the moos on the GD site.

Her mom should have left her in a 101 degree car a few times, maybe she wouldn't be such an ungrateful brat.

bratBgone Wrote:
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> > Most evening services begin at 6 or 7 and last an
> hour or two. Unless she's living in an area with
> a serious heat wave, I doubt it would be 101
> degrees at that time of evening.

Well, in Texas, yes it can be 101 degrees around 6-7 p.m.

Unfortunately.

She kinda had a point with the Dairy Queen incident - but then went on to reveal herself as a spoiled little bitch.

casseyrod Wrote:
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>
> Well, in Texas, yes it can be 101 degrees around
> 6-7 p.m.
>
> Unfortunately.


Dh grew up in Scotsdale, AZ, and let me know it could still be that hot then too! I'm a northerner!

Where to begin (sigh).

Why is this kid posting in a parenting forum? Did she just give up a kid for adoption?--there doesn't seem to be one at home, but perhaps that's why her mom said she's so far off the correct path.

Mom needs to give a two-week ultimatum. Two weeks to get a job and get the hell out. Take her candy a$$ and see how she can do in the world where her mom isn't laundering her knickers, cleaning her dirty plate left on the table after she excused herself, doing all that work for the brat, and then having to hear how she (Mom) should "get a job." Poor Mom. For years she was looking forward to 18, thinking she'd be DONE.

What business is it of the kid to pay so much attention to the church family? Who knows, or cares, what their story is? And she was paying as much attention to the sermon as the restless kids were! Yeah, it's rather mean to eat DQ and have one kid sit out, but who knows what the backstory is. Maybe the family's little girl has been a holy terror in church and was told "If you lay down on that pew ONE MORE TIME this Sunday there's no more dq for you." And maybe when the little girl was peeking in the window she was shoving in front of an elderly person. Who knows.

Time for Mom to put on the welding helmet and apply a gas torch to those apron strings! Then boot her in the butt for good measure as she's heading out the door.

Gosh...

(I had to read this more than twice to make sure.)

Where DID the girl sound like a spoiled brat?????

She was just observing how those crazy religious parents treated their poor kids and expressed her own opinion, causing her equally crazy religious moo to go ballistic on her. That is why I don't trust religious people, who can be extremely opinionated and even abusive in extreme cases, too.

I may not like kids, especially spoiled brats, but I also don't believe that excess abuse of any kind OR emotional manipulation should be used to raise children, either. THIS in turn COULD produce crazed emotional wrecks...like that girl's batshit moo.=P

Just dropping my own two cents here.

just yesterday in public i told a child to behave itself none too kindly- it's mother THANKED ME and my fil rolled his eyes at me. She's lucky I didn't eat it but i didn't have to wash it first

I was at a very important college b-ball game (to the die-hard fans anyway) when I was standing up cheering and screaming... mind you this is near the END of the game...and it's tied. All was great until I heard some little M**ther FU**ER about 9 years old say "siiit dooown, siit dooowwnn" in this bratty little voice. This kid was so spoiled he thought that he could demand that 100 ADULT fans would sit down because HE said to... BIG FUCKING MISTAKE KID..!

Little does the little fucker know at this point that

1. I HATE BRATTY KIDS

2. I've been hitting the flask full of vodka for the last two hours and

3. I'd NEVER EVER EVER talked to ANY adult that way or my dad would've back-handed me onto the court!..and it REALLY PISSES me off to see this spoiled attitude.

So, I turn slowly, look right at him, and say loudly, but kinda psycho-calmly. "Are YOU telling me to sit down?" He stares in shock...so I repeated it, louder this time, "I asked you a question, are YOU (pause) ..telling ME (longer pause) to sit down?...because I've got news for you, I'M NOT GOING TO SIT DOWN. " Little fucker about wet his pants and looks up to his dad for back-up. At this point my boyfriend thought the father was gonna start a fight, I swear to you.

And this I also swear to you, unbelievably, the dad didn't say a fucking word. The impression I got was that he was GLAD that someone told his kid off. Poor sucker probably tries to, but mooomy doesn't "allow" that.

Guess what, never heard his mouth again the rest of the season. I also think I did the kid a favor for his future. Someone's got to show them they're not the center of the universe.

Yay! Great response! Probably the first time in his life he's been put in his place. Apparently it worked wonders since he kept his yap shut for the rest of the season.

married with rabbits Wrote:
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> There seems to be no balance. You have AP
> parenting with "gentle" discipline which basically
> means none. Then you have the fundies who think
> everything a child does is bad and worth
> punishing. Reminds me of the stories of the Amish
> smashing their children's hands with rocking
> chairs just because.. cause it makes them "better"
> kids or something.
>


My guess is that we only get the extremes, actual parents who are doing their jobs don't have to go on the internets to have other people agree with whatever wacko b.s. they "decide" to do because actual parents don't have time for that shit, and know they're doing their jobs.

"It truly is the one commonality that every designation of humans you can think of has, there's at least one asshole."
--Me