"My boyfriend and I were attending evening service this previous Sunday when a family in front of us sparked some rather *sensitive* memories of my childhood.........They listen to service part of the time but get distracted by there short attention spans and begin drawing on their handouts and thats when Daddy's parenting skills become displayed for everyone to see ....
He lifts up the little boy by scooping his hand under his shoulder and grabbing his rear with the other hand and moves him to the other side of the pew and begins to scold him for not paying attention..... Then the youngest daughter starts laying across the pew so her mother starts smacking on her legs with a hymnal......This results in Dad walking down to them and grabbing each of their arms escorting them out of the sanctuary.... when they returned both kids had tears streaming down their faces .
Following service my boyfriend and I went to Dairy Queen while in line I realize that the same family from church is in front of us and the middle daughter is on tip toes attempting to look over the counter to see the ice cream being made.... father notices and starts slapping her across the back with his hand....and tells her to go wait in the van with the door opened (keep in mind its only 101 degrees out) The family goes on to order their food and then sits down to pray before they eat and then the Mom goes out to get little girl and they set her down with the family and she has to watch them eat because she lost her privilege for food !!!!!!!!
Today over lunch I shared with my Mom what happened and she kept nodding and saying the parents were absolutely correct in what they did and told me that she prays that my future children won't turn out to be heathens She says that I live with a worldy mind set vs. one of the word. So of course, i begin to defend myself and tell her why I believe the way these children were treated were wrong and how I know from first hand experience (referring to how I was raised) that its emotionally damaging and causes social anxiety and trust issues when getting older.
Then she starts *yelling* at me telling me that I was raised in a wonderful Christian home and it breaks her heart to see how far off the path I have gone I got up from the table and said, "this is exactly why I can't have a relationship with you" So i go up to my room (yeah, im 20 still live at home...working on that) and begin to pray (its been a very bad week, Dad lost three of his men in a tragic mining incident).
*sidenote* Yesterday, I had an appointment with the bank to get a loan for school and books but my dad wasn't able to show due to a press conference so my Mom had to go with me (needed a co-signer). Well they told my mom since she is at home and doesn't have an income she can't co-sign for me and I turned to her and whispered I guess your going to have to get a job with me (I in no way meant this to be smart, or to hurt feelings ) and she looked at me like I had just slapped her or something....Flash forward to being in my room today...
Moments, after excusing myself from the table and going upstairs to my room my Mom comes stomping up the stairs swings my door open as hard as she can and dumps a dirty laundry basket on my head and says, "See I don't work, and I'm sure that mom at church doesn't either. So why don't you hang out NOT working like the rest of us and then she slams my door .
I don't know what to think anymore..."