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hana
Thanksgiving we have an open invite to join a friend for dinner at her home, but we like football so it's turkey breast and football watching day for us.
We rent a house in the country the week between $mas and New Years with other couples. Lots of board games, booze, and hockey or football depending on the schedules.
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Exactly. Fucking famblee is everything bullshit. Let me guess, they expect you to sacrifice your time, even if its inconvenient for you, but never sacrifice any of their precious fucking special snowflake breeder time, if its inconvenient for them?Quote
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hana
Thanksgiving we have an open invite to join a friend for dinner at her home, but we like football so it's turkey breast and football watching day for us.
We rent a house in the country the week between $mas and New Years with other couples. Lots of board games, booze, and hockey or football depending on the schedules.
I applaud you. This is the way to do it.
Through the years we have been slowly getting away from the familial pressures and doing more of what we want to do during the holidays than what we're allegedly "obligated" to do. While we haven't (and won't) completely detach from every family event, we're not going to be browbeaten into spending every minute at an event.
We also have an issue with relocated members of our extended family coming home only a handful of times per year. We get the standard guilt trip: "You know, Aunt Ginny and the kydz only come up from Florida once per year, and they'll be really disappointed if you're not around..."
Uhhh... sorry, we're not planning our lives around the whims of Aunt Ginny. Clearly she didn't plan her life with the idea of seeing us regularly in mind. I'm not sure why she'd expect to have us at her beck and call when she's ignored us for the past 12 months.
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For us, the holiday season doesn't start until we decide it does. How about the rest of you?
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the noodler
Working in an office with hens that just MUST play the local "soft office pop" and then the Monday after thanksgiving BAM! Six weeks of non stop Xmas music. I mean its a change from Katy Perry and unintelligible Adele offerings but still. I just want to eat a bullet when I end up hearing Dominick the Xmas Donkey for the 90th time.
Dh and I are atheist agnostic respectively. Why should we perpetuate this capitalism driven war on Christmas crap? However.... Dh's sister is Wicca and since xtians stole her holiday(s), I figure she SHOULD get a gift. Right?
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StudioFiftyFour
Through the years we have been slowly getting away from the familial pressures and doing more of what we want to do during the holidays than what we're allegedly "obligated" to do. While we haven't (and won't) completely detach from every family event, we're not going to be browbeaten into spending every minute at an event.
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yurble
Life's to short to spend my time satisfying or appeasing people when I get no pleasure from any interaction and they're not in the position to economically retaliate against me.
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I always looked back on my childhood Christmases as fun. Maybe I didn't realize that the family didn't have much money, and we made do with a lot less than other families. I always thought 1 major present and a few minor presents were the norm, until I grew up and spent Christmas with other families. When I saw X-Boxes and bikes and major-ticket items being bandied about, and then people just shrugging and heading on to the next gift, holy shit. I didn't know what to think anymore. Is this what it was really about??
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It's all about what...pretty much every post in here is about, actually. People have a choice. They can choose madness, or they can choose to have a calmer life and detach from the 'expected'.
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doomflower
The holidays are what you make of them, for good or for bad. For whatever reason, to most people, the holidays means dragging screaming kids around shopping centers, or eating like a glutton, or camping in front of a Best Buy, or even blowing up things with fireworks because HOLIDAY (It doesn't even need to be July 4 or New Years anymore!).
I'm not sure why it NEEDS to be stressful. But people make it that way, for sure.
I always looked back on my childhood Christmases as fun. Maybe I didn't realize that the family didn't have much money, and we made do with a lot less than other families. I always thought 1 major present and a few minor presents were the norm, until I grew up and spent Christmas with other families. When I saw X-Boxes and bikes and major-ticket items being bandied about, and then people just shrugging and heading on to the next gift, holy shit. I didn't know what to think anymore. Is this what it was really about??
I do enjoy the holidays, but as an introvert and someone who panics in crowds, I have fun in the periphery. In the quiet moments, away from the stores and the fighting for big-ticket items.
It's all about what...pretty much every post in here is about, actually. People have a choice. They can choose madness, or they can choose to have a calmer life and detach from the 'expected'.
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