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Oh please. Becoming a parent rarely imbues people with any kind of generalized selflessness, it's just that instead of focusing on themselves, they're focused on their own children. Not necessarily anyone else's children, not necessarily on the betterment of society and/or the world.
It's no less selfish to focus 100% of one's altruistic energies on your own children. Few others benefit from that energy, it's all to the betterment of themselves, just in a less direct way. You don't solve world hunger by giving your own kids a decent breakfast.
I really dislike the whole selfish/unselfish dichotomy we try to establish on this subject, anyway. It's useless and nonproductive. People choose to have or not to have kids for a lot of reasons, it's not about selfishness or altruism.
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As a mother, I know I wouldn’t trade the experience for the world...
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Early on, we enjoy a kind of natural high by staying close to and caring for a baby. A newborn’s scent triggers an increase in a mother’s brain of dopamine, a chemical associated with anticipation and reward. This neurotransmitter brings about feelings of intense pleasure and is associated with addiction. Dopamine essentially makes us crave being with the baby. Long after infancy, moms can experience the same dopamine-reward response simply by seeing their child smile. In a sense, when our kids are happy, we feel it.
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Children can be exhausting, isolating and expensive. So if they truly make us unhappy, why do we keep having them?
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Our ancestors required big families for hunting and farming, but that’s not necessary in the 21st century
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mr. neptune
Well, I guess my mother saying "there was no birth control back then" for why she grew up in a farm family with 12 kids in Kansas was partly right.
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mr. neptune
Two points I have to make here:
1. I am going to have to read this Atlas Shrugged. I must have missed it going to school in Breed Hills. I though it was a book about fitness.
2. Well, I guess my mother saying "there was no birth control back then" for why she grew up in a farm family with 12 kids in Kansas was partly right. But I also have a theory that the Great Depression would have been over with much sooner if a farm family did not have so many kids. Farmers might be forced to (gulp!) hire people, even if they could only barter for food or products. But with 12 kids in a family, there are plenty of "slaves" to bring the crop to harvest.
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I don't think anyone who hasn't read Rand is missing much, since everything she writes is thinly disguised polemics. I'd much rather read someone like Orwell, who knew how to put his opinions down as a good story.
Atlas could easily be a reference to the mythological figure who held the world on his shoulder, which is of course the figure Rand referenced in her title. Many breeders do think their children are essential to the world.
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I don't think anyone who hasn't read Rand is missing much, since everything she writes is thinly disguised polemics. I'd much rather read someone like Orwell, who knew how to put his opinions down as a good story.
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I don't think anyone who hasn't read Rand is missing much, since everything she writes is thinly disguised polemics. I'd much rather read someone like Orwell, who knew how to put his opinions down as a good story.
I would recommend, if you're interested in Rand's philosophy, just skipping her books and playing Bioshock instead.
Btw, yurble, I agree with you on Rand vs. Orwell, and breeders' opinions about their kids.
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yurble
I don't think anyone who hasn't read Rand is missing much, since everything she writes is thinly disguised polemics. I'd much rather read someone like Orwell, who knew how to put his opinions down as a good story.
I would recommend, if you're interested in Rand's philosophy, just skipping her books and playing Bioshock instead.
Btw, yurble, I agree with you on Rand vs. Orwell, and breeders' opinions about their kids.
I'm not interested in her philosophy, I strongly disagree with it. I just remember her books as being badly written (I had to read two in school).