All your children cut contact? You probably deserved it. October 16, 2017 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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The vehemence and hatred has shocked me. I love my children so much and need them like I need air to breathe. I had a breakdown as the kids blocked me from all email, Facebook, SMS accounts, etc, so I have no way of communicating with them. It’s broken my heart.
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I think the letter writer is grandiose, self pitying and profoundly narcissistic. To alienate all your offspring and cast yourself as the victim? That takes some talent.
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The original letter contained red flags pointing at a manipulative, delusional and narcissistic personality.
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She comes across as incredibly narcissistic. That all three of her adult offspring have severed contact with her, that there isn't any dissenting sibling, suggests that she has alienated all her offspring. And she doesn't appear to grasp that she might need to look inwards to resolve this problem
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The clue to this in the letter is the writer's 'me, I, my', talking about 'MY feelings' and 'MY broken heart' and never once showing the tiniest concern for her children's pain or any curiosity about their perspective on the problems she caused for them. She actually doesn't say anything about her children beyond HER views and feelings, suggesting that maybe she 'loves' them as sources of narcissistic supply, but does not value them as human beings.
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Re: All your children cut contact? You probably deserved it. October 17, 2017 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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One thing that confuses me sometimes is in the example of the last posted comment on here, thru therapy etc, you're always told to focus on yourself and not the other person or others in general, not to speculate their thoughts etc. So here she does that, and it looks narcissistic. Plus, unless she's holding back, guessing about the kids' motivation isn't going to help her situation.
Re: All your children cut contact? You probably deserved it. October 17, 2017 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 441 |
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cfuter
One thing that confuses me sometimes is in the example of the last posted comment on here, thru therapy etc, you're always told to focus on yourself and not the other person or others in general, not to speculate their thoughts etc. So here she does that, and it looks narcissistic. Plus, unless she's holding back, guessing about the kids' motivation isn't going to help her situation.
Re: All your children cut contact? You probably deserved it. October 17, 2017 | Registered: 7 years ago Posts: 651 |