A completely delusional article: Six Reasons to have Six kids June 19, 2018 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,204 |
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I don’t let little things like common sense, birth control, and economic disaster stop me from having babies.
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6. Guess Who is Not Going Into a Retirement Home!
That’s right. Those six people can take turns passing me around. I might even fake a bit of incontinence as payback for the twelve years of diaper changing. And they should consider themselves lucky – they won’t have three human beings in diapers at once, like some of us have.
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mumofsixbirds
The only reasons I've heard breeders give for needing or wanting multiple brats is to satisfy their own twisted needs or desires. It has nothing to do with quality of life for the loaves at all.
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skyeyes
Yeah, that deal about having six kids to take care of you in your old age doesn't always work out so well. My ex-husband's aunt had five, and always bragged about how sh'e be able to go from one kid's house to another the way her mother did. (Grandma had six kids.) Well, the joke was on her: all five of her kids grew up and either joined the priesthood or became nuns. So now Aunty has to figure out where to go when she's old just like the rest of us.
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mumofsixbirds
I remember a friend of my mother's who lived in the apartment a few doors away from her. She was such a nice lady and her apartment looked like a dollhouse. When I was working at the physio clinic, she came in there to get some work done on her back, and she was pleasant, kind, and all around lovely person to be around. My mom and her would get together and drink sherry on the patio at night, go for walks, etc. When I met her, she was in her seventies.
Fast forward a few years later. Her daughter had built a suite in her house for her to move into. She pressured her mother to sell the condo, and invest the cash in her house. She was not really happy about it, but loved her daughter and grandson, and decided that it would be a good move for her.
A couple of years into it, this same vibrant woman was forced to stay in her room, she was not allowed to speak to anyone in the house, and was not permitted to eat the food in the fridge. She was reduced to having no money, because the daughter took everything from her, calling it 'rent' even though she had given her condo money to her to build part of her house.
She became severely depressed. She would call my mother and cry on the phone, telling her how her daughter and grandson would not speak to her, wouldn't allow her to go anywhere, not take her to appointments, and she wasn't allowed to eat when she was hungry.
A short time after all of this took place, the daughter couldn't stand her mother crying in her room anymore, and put her in a nursing home. She passed away there, all alone. Her friends, including my mother would go see her in the home, and she told me that the lady had been reduced to skin and bones, and was suffering with severe depression. Nobody from her family ever went to see her. She died all alone in her room by a heart attack.
This is what happens to people. Breeders may think that they are going to be looked after by their kids, but in reality, it is quite different. This woman was actually a good person, a good mother and grandmother and look how she was treated by her own family. She died of a broken heart. Her greedy daughter stole everything from her, forced her to stay in her room by herself, and did not allow her any freedom.
Before she moved there, she was fully independent, healthy, had a wonderful social life, and she probably would have lived a lot longer if her kids didn't get in the way of it.
My mother went to her funeral, and I remember actually crying about hearing of her death, because it was such a sad and shocking thing that had happened. I really wish that people who think about breeding future caretakers think about this. It is not just childless people taking up beds in these nursing homes. Most of the people there are parents and grandparents. Why do they think that it'll be different when it comes to them?
Arrogance, I think. I'm posting this story for anyone who reads this and is sitting on the fence about having kids. There are no guarantees in life. Kids can be extremely selfish and not care, no matter how wonderful of a parent you were.
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1. It is NOT cheaper. You get more use out of certain things, but food, medical care and college are not on that list. At most, you can say that it costs less per child to have more, but that can be said about bulk purchases of all kinds and it still doesn’t make them a universally good idea. Toilet paper is cheaper if I buy enough that it takes up my spare bedroom, but not when I account for the loss of a bedroom to store it.
2. Your kids are not necessarily nicer than children from smaller families. We call this the Josh Duggar Rule.
3. Merely making something harder and not exponentially harder is not a good reason to do it. Balancing a brick on your head all day does not make life exponentially harder and could conceivably improve your posture. Try that instead of burdening society with your vanity project.
4. Any parent who doesn’t cater to Bratley’s whining doesn’t hear “I’m bored” all the time. All children come with a built-in entertainment system called an imagination.
5. There’s a book about children who socialize each other. It’s called Lord of the Flies. Give it a read sometime.
6. Already addressed, but you are just as likely as any parent to end up in a nursing home.
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A child free person born in the 40's or 50's is likely to be very rare.
I guess that makes me (born 1949) and my BFF (born 1951) unicorns, because we're both dead-set childfree.
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A child free person born in the 40's or 50's is likely to be very rare.
I guess that makes me (born 1949) and my BFF (born 1951) unicorns, because we're both dead-set childfree.
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mumofsixbirds
There is also the excuse by kids that they have to care for loaves of their own. I don't remember which thread it was, but there was some moo out there who wanted her cancer-riddled mother to move halfway across the country and help her look after it.
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freya
A child free person born in the 40's or 50's is likely to be very rare.
I guess that makes me (born 1949) and my BFF (born 1951) unicorns, because we're both dead-set childfree.
Maybe it is more common in some areas - such as the coasts? I'm from Breederville where everyone who could had kids.
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There is also the excuse by kids that they have to care for loaves of their own. I don't remember which thread it was, but there was some moo out there who wanted her cancer-riddled mother to move halfway across the country and help her look after it.
It was one where she hadn't even had a kid yet, and was wondering if she should have a kid for her mother's sake, and her partner didn't want kids. Her mother was a 10 hour flight away.