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It is much better for people to decide against kids because of a rough childhood than it is for people to decide to have kids simply because they think they can do better than their parents did.
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Me too. When I was younger I would hit a pillow to get my frustration out. Now I can take a nap, a bath, do some gardening, etc. to deal with it and I've heard from others I'm way too patient (of all things!). If I feel really stressed I'll take some kava kava. I don't think for one second these methods would work if I had kids and had to deal with them constantly pushing boundaries and all the other stuff they do.Quote
ondinette
I also would end up having a terrible temper like my parents no matter how hard I tried not to.
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freya
I really hope you read most of this in your file or were told by someone about it and don't have memories of it as it is terrible.Quote
craftyzits
My infancy was very very damaged.
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bell_flower
Yurble, your mom is an exceptional person.
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herbalgeek
I could go on and on, but the end result is that I now struggle with bipolar and ADHD, along with some other fun shit. I also have a violent temper that I have gone to great lengths to control, so much so that most people see a mild, passive person when they see me.
Re: A crappy childhood IS a good reason not to have kids of your own July 15, 2018 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,976 |
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ladybug2203
You dont need a reason nor justification to stay childfree. "I dont want kids" is reason enough!
Re: A crappy childhood IS a good reason not to have kids of your own July 16, 2018 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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Cambion
Yes, some people who don't want kids did have bad childhoods, or are infertile, or hate kids. But plenty of people who have or want kids had bad childhoods, are infertile, are mentally ill, and hate kids too. I don't know why these things are seen as "defects" exclusive to CFers.
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Cambion
Or you get the people who say they don't want or like kids and find themselves pregnant, but won't abort and feel obligated to raise it because "everything happens for a reason." Then they raise a kid they don't want or like. Because that couldn't possibly turn out badly!
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Cambion
I've heard a LOT of breeders say that they can't stand other people's kids, but love their own. I guess that's a good thing?