Dear Mariella: should I marry my CF gf, when I might want kids? November 13, 2018 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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You are definitely right on the many pluses of choosing not to procreate. Along with the financial upside and freedom it allows, there are also negative side effects – contributing to population growth, bringing innocents into an uncertain world, the increasingly unstable future and the decades of responsibility. Truly, when you look forensically at the pros and cons of parenting, there’s little that is tangible to compel any sensible person to go for it. But billions of us do. The desire to have a family tends to creep up on you and it’s almost impossible to predict whether or not it will become a priority later.
Re: Dear Mariella: should I marry my CF gf, when I might want kids? November 13, 2018 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,712 |
Re: Dear Mariella: should I marry my CF gf, when I might want kids? November 14, 2018 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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freya
Bad advice, he can accept her decision to not have kids seriously and either live with it or move on. She is 36, the likelihood of her changing her mind about kids is pretty much non-existent at this point.
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If you really love this woman, but you’re not in a hurry to have children, why don’t you just live together for a while and see how things progress?
Re: Dear Mariella: should I marry my CF gf, when I might want kids? November 14, 2018 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,199 |
Re: Dear Mariella: should I marry my CF gf, when I might want kids? November 14, 2018 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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bell_flower
"Not conducive to success?" Are we talking about bringing an innocent person in the world or am I at a MLM convention? What kind of bullshit is that? Having a bad childhood IS a perfectly acceptable reason not to have kids. The world would be a better place if people with shitty childhoods didn't procreate instead of deluding themselves that they will do things differently.
Re: Dear Mariella: should I marry my CF gf, when I might want kids? November 15, 2018 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,712 |
Re: Dear Mariella: should I marry my CF gf, when I might want kids? November 17, 2018 | Registered: 5 years ago Posts: 132 |
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freya
And saying he has lots of time is incorrect, he is 29. Sperm has an expiration date just like eggs do.