Maternity leave is haaaard December 09, 2018 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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- 27% did not enjoy their maternity leave as much as they thought they would
- 47% felt lonely
- 2 in 5 missed being at work
- 1 in 5 wished they'd gone back to work earlier
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yurble
Well, it's not supposed to be fun, it's obviously grunt work, and if you miss being at work, I'm sure your employer will be thrilled to have you back and doing what you were paid to do sooner.
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I wonder how much of maternity leave disappointment can be written off as moos discovering (or being reminded, depending on how many kids they've had already) that children and parenthood both suck. I can imagine for new moos especially that the reality vs. the fantasy is a pretty shocking transition.
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bell_flower
I know myself well enough to know that being home with a kid would drive me nuts. I'm an INTJ and I do not like to be interrupted and I need quiet time and time to think each day.
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bell_flower
I know myself well enough to know that being home with a kid would drive me nuts. I'm an INTJ and I do not like to be interrupted and I need quiet time and time to think each day.
I'm an introvert as well. I need 1-2 hours alone in the morning to be able to tolerate human interaction, and I like a few hours at night as well. If I go more than a week without getting my personal time, for instance if I'm on holiday with friends, I notice that I get a very short temper. I usually end up taking a day to just sit around the flat alone while my friends go out, to keep my sanity. If I'm not especially stressed I can handle interruptions in my time from people close to me, but if I am under strain I need pure, uninterrupted hours. If I can hear my neighbors I can't relax. I don't even like to consider the hell my life would be with kids in the house.
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twocents
I tend to be a tad old fashioned. If they have a kid they stay home and raise it. I think it is the better interest of a baby. my opinion. I really don't know what was done with me when I was a kid, I do know I was in child care as mom made a stupid choice (or one to benefit her inherent narcissism). and had to work. I don't bond well with people. I make attachments but I don't think I've ever truly bonded.
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freya
Another introvert here and INTJ. I can go days without human contact without an adverse reaction. Being in a large group or party for a few hours will satisfy me for days and I greatly limit those experiences. If there is drama it gets old for me in about 2 minutes and often larger groups of people include a drama queen.
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bastet-the-bass-cat
My faith was restored a little bit, when one professor at the end finally spoke up and told the speakers not to mention the parhuntal crud henceforth. Oh well. At least the glimpse of a happy end.
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freya
Another introvert here and INTJ. I can go days without human contact without an adverse reaction. Being in a large group or party for a few hours will satisfy me for days and I greatly limit those experiences. If there is drama it gets old for me in about 2 minutes and often larger groups of people include a drama queen.
Wonder how many of us are INTJ (I am as well). It's not especially common. I think we had a discussion about this once before.
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My faith was restored a little bit, when one professor at the end finally spoke up and told the speakers not to mention the parhuntal crud henceforth. Oh well. At least the glimpse of a happy end.
Good for that professor, who is now of course going to be shunned and considered a fossil. I remember a similar event which focused on how many people had taken advantage of some breeder re-integration scheme. It seemed like completely the wrong metrics to be tracking. From the business perspective surely the metric of interest is not how many people availed themselves to the scheme, but whether it delivered the expected results of transitioning people out of leave and back into work?
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