Some of you long-term posters might remember that I have been taking care of my mother and stepdad full-time. He passed away last November at age 71, and I posted some comments about him and his estranged (worthless) kids then. Mom, just age 64 right now, was already disabled with ministrokes and received a diagnosis of breast cancer this past January. She just completed treatment, including a lumpectomy back in February, radiation, and chemotherapy. In May 2006 a military hospital (my stepdad was retired Navy) had given her no more than a year to live because of her stroke history and a past undiagnosed heart problem, so she has greatly outlived that prognosis so far. But...
A little over a week ago I had to take her to the hospital because of sudden weakness, loss of appetite, and falls. She is still in the care of the hospital and will undergo some skilled nursing care and physical therapy to try to get her back to walking with a walker again as she had been before these symptoms. But it is apparent that once she returns home to my care, I will have to be much more hands-on with her than before, and to top it off I must return to work part-time to pay the bills. My plate will be full.
Sometime soon it seems likely that the rest of you won't be seeing many posts from me. I wanted to take this opportunity to welcome all the new members whom I did not get a chance to address before, and to give my thanks and regards to all the rest of you plugging away in the CF world.
I am thankful that I am CF and was therefore able to take care of mom and my stepdad when they needed it. My brother has had 1,001 excuses for why he just can't help, but the main reason is that his daughter by a previous relationship and his present wife's two daughters by her previous husband keep him busy with family and support obligations. I have had to shoulder the load alone.
Making matters worse is that those who have children have it made when it comes to getting freebies from the taxpayers. By contrast, Mom and I can't get shit. And I went through that song and dance before when I was applying for financial aid for university, only to be told that my working-class parents made "too much money" for me to get anything—even federally guaranteed student loans. It never ends. You pay taxes and pay taxes but get told that you aren't eligible for any aid when the chips are down—
unless you sprog. So once again I'm in that boat. A small stipend would enable me to stay at home instead of having to go to work, but no such program exists for those trying to take care of disabled parents—all of us who have paid taxes over the years. Yet there's plenty of taxpayers' money for people who shit out bastard kyds.
I did not intend to unload, but I suspect the rest of you already know many of these realities. You and this board have provided a great deal of enjoyment. I'll continue to lurk and even occasionally post when I can after Mom comes home, but once I go to work it will definitely be a lot less often. Thanks again to the rest of you for a great board.