Moo is just now waking up after 20 years in a relationship. Now she wants what she should have requested as a baseline in the first place prior to sluicing:
- her name on the deed of the house he purchased
- marry man who she has a brat with (actually, she doesn't express wanting this---I'm guessing she inpig first---thought it would be sunshine and roses and didn't think about this until after the fact)
As it stands it appears the boyfriend is very good at getting exactly what he wants: unpaid housekeeper, unpaid daycare, etc. I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that there is no life insurance policy to help her in case of his death. I wouldn't be surprised if he has a life insurance policy on her to cover housekeeping, etc. in case she dies.
He did put her name on a second property he purchased but this could have been done just to shut her up. If they separate she will likely get child support only and he will either buy her out of the second property or she will receive a portion when it is sold. It is likely her boyfriend would try to settle out of court and she'd end up with less of a child support check than she is entitled to. If she hires a great attorney (which is a huge if, since she doesn't have income) and is really lucky she may end up with part of a property and a better child support payment. She isn't entitled to any alimony (is this still a thing?) because they aren't married. If they break up her boyfriend is a man who owns a property and a half and likely sees his brat on the weekends only. She is living in or at near poverty, is in her late 30's or older and has very little work history and is starting completely over again with little to nothing. Or worse, her boyfriend has custody of the brat and she has to get a job that pays enough for brat support and to support herself. Or she has to get 2 jobs, which is more realistic.
As the brat is ten, what has stopped her from training or getting a job in the last five plus years? She could have worked a part time minimum wage job and would have been able to save for retirement or to contribute to a down payment on the second property. Does she realize her work history is pretty much nonexistent and she won't have jack for social security? Or maybe she is just lazy and her boyfriend realizes she is living in some fantasy world where she expects to play house all day and not have to work?
My guess is that other women she knows have been telling her this for the last twenty years and she has put her head in the sand like an ostrich until now. She has had twenty years to watch women she knows who think like she does get seriously burned by allowing themselves to be put in such a precarious position to start with.
Boyfriend may be great in all other ways but the info. we have on him shows he has placed his own self interests in much higher priority than hers for 20 years.
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