1)"Natural childbirth 10 months ago -- Should the vaginal opening be so different compared to before the birth? The urethra is about 1/2 inch higher up. The vaginal opening, which used to be a small (0 - 1cm) opening which I could clench shut at will, now takes up the entire area -no matter how many Kegel exercises I do. Basically, it looks like what used to be my inner vulva/outer Vaginal area were completely ripped away by the baby. The inside of my vagina is now the outside: bulges of flesh covered with mucus membranes. There is a lot more mess in my panties. Water gets in when I bathe (seems unhygienic)."
2)"...i felt similar, its like a "road Crash" so perfect before..I know about the bath too when i stand up i "leak" where water has got in...(SORRY TMI) i thisnk it happens to us all, even the celebs that dont have arranged c sections
Just another thing us women have to put up with"
3)"... Once after going to the bathroom, something felt different while wiping. I used the TP to feel around. I finally got out a mirror and looked. OMG< the horror! It looks like some of my vaginal wall is falling out of the opening..."
4)"OHH,Don't get me started.I have two kids.And my WHOLE BODY is not the same.I weigh the same,look the same(with clothes on) but man. boobs are no longer perky,there not to the ground or anything but not the same.My stomach,well looks like a map with all my streach marks.Can't wear 2 peice anymore.And my girl down there has not been the same....It just sucks.Anyways,I'm sorry if I horrified you 1st timers or ttc'ers but that is my mommie badge & would not change it for the world."
5)"...I didn't think it was possible to have a sagging A cup but I have acheived it. One of my boobs even hangs lower than the other and looks like a goat teet. My stomach doesn't have stretchmarks, but it looks like a Sharpay (sp)when I bend over. Let's not even talk about the private parts. Let's just say slender tampons don't quite work any longer...."
6)"...I also have some problems with that area also. It has beeen two years since my last delivery. I am switching GYno's next month (mine retired). I am going to have her look at my Keloid scar
and see if anything can be done with it. It does get very irriatated from wiping (tmi). I hope that something can be done. "
7)"...oh god if men only had to deal with this! yes we are all so different-not all of us can have pamela andersons hooha lol. but its not what it looks like, its how it still works!"
8)I haven't really looked (they're only 9 and 11, years old!I'm still working up the courage) but I know the original stretchiness/bagginess of the vagina goes away/gets better.THe boobs though, oh my , the boobs just get worse!!! I heard this test you do--if you have perky boobs you can put a pencil under boob and it will just slip right out (the 90degree angle I suppose). My friends and I joke, we could put an entire pencil case under one boob and it wouldn't fall out. I think I could try with a whole backpack at this point. LOL. You gotta laugh."
9)bulging is normal. I too freaked when I saw that and when to the dr for that and she said its from having children. So don't worry its completely normal. If its actually hanging all the way out I would recommend you go to the dr."
10)"...I have this indent in the middle from where your stomach muscles
separate while pg (or something like that happens?)
Truly, if men only knew. DH says he doesn't mind, but I notice all the differences."
11)"Yeah, nobody ever tells you about this stuff. I had an episiotomy and then still tore all the way through to my rectum. Took them just about as long to sew me up as it took to push out my son. My opening is very large too, sorry. My Dr. will actaully be repairing it after this one, hopefully, and stitching it smaller. I almost need 2 tampons to keep them in, so not cool. I would bring it up to your Dr. ,but some of the changes aren't going to be fixable, that's a lot of trauma for your body to go through. I keep reminding myself of how lucky I am to have my son and another one on the way, but it's still hard..."
12)"I know what you all mean and so do a lot of my firends. and now that I am a single mom Im totally paranoid aobut people seeing it. ive looked at pics online and mine doesnt hang TOO much, not like what ive seen but i did notice the inner labia does hang, and even the outter a little....".
13)"...and dont even get me started on my boobs. people always tell me they cant belive i had a kid i look so good but without cloths on...i dont feel like i look good! i feel like im gonna scare guys off wiht my hanging labia....."
14)"...my god imma mess..everyone always says how pretty i am but under my clothes.. im jus disgusted..im only 22! i have 2 beautiful children and im a proud mother but my breasts sag and my Stomach looks like a butt.. a flabby saggy butt! lol man.. but i dont know what to do... its hard to except this..:
15)"....and she did stitch me up some more after this last baby. Still not like before kids, but so much better, there is actually space between my rectum and my vagina now where before, they were side by side and nearly touching..."
16)"... I had a 10 lber. too and totally wrecked my belly. The second baby I didn't get any more damage, but maybe because the first one did all there was to be done.... It now feels very loose in my vagina when I walk, stand or sit. It always feels as though it is wet and I am having a discharge even when there is not anything..."
17)"My chest isn't all that perky to begin with- that's going to get worse, i've been a lil overweight before, now my stomach has no hope of regaining flatness...and the one thing i had going was my virginity before i got married...now thats not really gonna matter coz my 'intimacy' with him is gonna be effected in so many ways....."
18)"... Just had 2nd baby and and things down there are way diff than 1st babys. Buldging urethra looks swollen all around. I can see up my vagina. It looks completely diff. I've been to doc 2x telling him that I think something is wrong. Also feeling a lot of pressure down there, as if something's falling out.
19)"This is TMI but I'm desperatly trying to find answers to this. I have the 'buldging' out of my vagina too. It actually sticks out and somtimes rubs on my panties. Hurts and makes the whole thing sore. BUT for some reason when I'm standing up, it sticks out, if I lay down it goes back? It's horrible having sex too, makes it really painful.
20)"...Stomach is bigger thn b4 wen i bend over its so saggy, it discusts me. i had 2 vaginal birhs. one with an epesiotomy and forceps vagina looks realy messed up loads ov skin and it looks like a pile ov mince meat to b honest... sex once a month, no enjoyment fr me or my partner. he let slip one time and said have u ever had a tight one? i was upset, i think he thought i knew i had a big1, not until thn i didnt.
21)"i didnt want my last prregnancy coz i knew it would do ths to my body. i feel my partner owes me big time for disforming me a such.im a young girl with an old womans body. ppl say im lucky bt tthey dnt c underneath my clothes. i just wish sum1 told me b4i had kids"
ALL of these things go a long way in explaining post partum depression. I still can't get over how the moo in number 4 calls her devastating bodily injuries a "mommie badge", like being irreversibly disfigured is some fucking badge of honor. Then she has the nerve to lie and say she "..would not change it for the world", BULLSHIT. She CAN'T change it or she certainly would or possibly even prevent it in the first place had she been more aware of the potential physical ramifications. I think we need a global campaign to educate girls and women moo wannabees who have not yet given birth. Maybe it could be called "After birth, it's not just the placenta that's gross", or something.