Moron has kids she doesn't want to keep her may-unn, things end exactly how you think

Moron has kids she doesn't want to keep her may-unn, things end exactly how you think
May 15, 2023

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https://www.boredpanda.com/husband-cant-handle-parenting-after-pressuring-wife-to-have-kids/

Nothing special in the link except pictures and comments from others, but I will copy/paste the important text here.

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“This is my confession. Before I met my husband, I told him I do not want to have children. I never wanted to have children. My entire life, I was like I don’t want them. I love kids. They’re so sweet. They’re cute, they’re fun. I have 17 nieces and nephews. That’s enough. I love being an auntie. And when we got together, I didn’t feel this maternal thing, like I wanted to have kids. It just never was there. But he was like “it’s a deal breaker”, so I said here, listen to this, if you want to have kids, here’s my compromise. I will have the kids, right? But I will never give up my career or my way of life for our kids. I’ll take care of them and love them, obviously. But I wasn’t going to be a stay-at-home mom. And I have an expectation of the way I want my kids raised. And I told him I don’t want them to be raised by other people, you know, I want them to be raised by mom and dad.”

“I mean when I’m at work, I come home and then I get to spend time with my kids. But that would mean that he would be assuming the responsibilities as a stay-at-home father, which means grocery shopping, cleaning, taking care of the kids, running them back and forth wherever they need to go, taking them to their appointments. Okay. So I went back to work in October and quickly he showed me he couldn’t manage it. And I was like, I told you from the beginning, I didn’t want to have kids because I didn’t want this burden because it’s a lot. And he told me he wanted that, that’s what he wanted. I said I’ll make sure I make enough money that you don’t need to work. So now he couldn’t even cope with that. So then I hired a nanny and I’ll say, here you can take a couple of days a week or she’ll just help you around the house with the kids.”

“He couldn’t cope with a nanny being in the house with him, okay. He’s basically disappearing. And this girl was like, where is he? Like he’s nowhere to be found. Basically, this nanny had to leave one night. She left and left our front door open and my kids were outside and he was locked in our bedroom and the kids are running around outside at night. I was livid. I was fucking livid when I got home. I was seriously so fucking angry. I mean, just, he’s such a fuckingg dirtbag, I was like you could have fucking killed our kids. Like, you’re so lucky that nothing happened to them. So yeah, very quickly after that I was like, you need to get the fuck out, you’re done. So I just find it really unfair that now this man knows all this about me, it was made very clear and somehow I’ve still been left with both of our kids and he’s not offering any support whatsoever to take care of these kids. And I’m just like, men are such shits. And then this is why we end up so bitter and resentful against them. Because they’re fucking assholes.”

Aaaaaand this is why you don't have kids for someone else when you don't want them. It never ends well.

The wanna-breeder will promise you the sun, moon and stars and will swear they'll do every single thing for those kids, and when they arrive, the wanna-breeder nopes right out. I've used this comparison before, but a wanna-breeder asking for brats from a clearly CF partner is like little kids begging their parents for a dog. They will promise from the bottoms of their hearts that they'll do EVERYTHING for that dog and Mom and Dad won't even know it's there, they just have to go buy one and bring it home.

Dog gets home, the kids enjoy playing with it, but all those promises they made have disappeared. They just want to have a cute doggy to play with, they don't want to walk it or clean up after it or groom it because that's boooooring. If it's a puppy, it will eventually no longer be cute to the brats and they'll lose interest entirely, meaning the parents wind up doing all the work because they don't want to neglect the dog and be charged with animal cruelty. They can't just refuse to feed it and care for it to "force" their kids to deal with it because the kids don't give a damn if the dog is suffering or dies. Meanwhile, the dog doesn't get the attention it deserves because it's simply being tolerated by that point and receives the bare minimum. Then when it acts up, it will probably get abused or abandoned because the parents just see it as another burden.

The difference is you can rehome an unwanted dog without much issue. It's not as easy to rehome an unwanted kid. For fuck's sake, people need to get that it is NOT a compromise when the person who doesn't want kids has them for the person who does. That is not a compromise - that is a sacrifice. And nobody - absolutely fucking NOBODY - is worth that big of a sacrifice. I know I'm preaching to the choir here, but so many fucking dumbfucks see brats as some kind of a bargaining chip in their relationships and precisely none of these people who cave to pressure from their partner/spouse wind up happy.