"I always disliked kids but I knew I would be very upset if I didn't have one" October 19, 2023 | Registered: 2 years ago Posts: 68 |
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clueless whiner
I'd always disliked children
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clueless whiner
I knew I'd be upset if I didn't have children someday
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clueless whiner
Muy mahm can bratsit! Free bratcare!
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clueless whiner
Wahhhh I regret having children and hate my life....what do I do now?
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clueless whiner
Doctor says lots of women have PPD.
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Re: "I always disliked kids but I knew I would be very upset if I didn't have one" October 20, 2023 | Registered: 20 years ago Posts: 9,314 |
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I paraphrased this quote. We all know what happens to those promises made before gestation. They're about as dependable as the promises made before sex. The only dependable village is the one you pay for. Even the childfree know this, as long as they're over 25. Ever have someone flake out on you that was going to help you move? Give you a ride somewhere - why do you think Uber is such a huge business?
Re: "I always disliked kids but I knew I would be very upset if I didn't have one" October 20, 2023 | Registered: 2 years ago Posts: 68 |
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mumofsixbirds
Why would you be upset not having something you strongly dislike? It's me not getting liver and lima beans for dinner. I'm kind of happy I don't have to choose that for my meals. I can opt for something else that won't make me want to hurl. The logic here eludes me. I also think that a lot of this PPD is definitely regret. I'm sure there are some cases where hormones come into play but I suspect the majority of moos shat it out and then realized that was a terrible mistake.
If this really is about giving her parents grandloaves, maybe she can dump it off with them and tell them to raise it.
At least if I buy something I don't like, I can return it with the receipt. You can't do that with loaves. It's a huge commitment and it's not all romantic unicorn farts like moos like to say it is to convince the rest of us.
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Re: "I always disliked kids but I knew I would be very upset if I didn't have one" October 23, 2023 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 3,819 |
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bell_flower
I lived in the Bible Belt between age 15 and 31. The pressure to Breed was intense. So many people telling women they are not nachural if they don't have kids and it's their duty as humans to breed. I always thought, what is it to these people? Nothing. Not their body, not their marriage, not their life. I'm particularly incensed when an older male tells a younger woman how great it all is. As if he would know.
When people are mismatched and one wants kids and the other does not, I don't think there is any way to "turn" the people who want them because most people are irrational when it comes to kids.
CF people have functioning bullshit meters and most of us are pretty stubborn. I know I was.
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twocents
I know all these alphabet soup conditions are real. What I am seeing, as with many of the professional whining victim groups, it is increasingly being used as a defense to get away with heinous, despicable, and downright evil acts. From driving drunks to road rage murders. I think people are starting to get fed up.. I know I am.
And like the phony rape, abuse charges, when there is a REAL problem, people now just tend to 'ho hum, another phony'..
Re: "I always disliked kids but I knew I would be very upset if I didn't have one" October 23, 2023 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 3,819 |
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cfuter
Too many people won't admit out loud or to themselves they don't like kids, so they literally don't know it and grudgingly just have kids bcz that's what you do.
Even if you are in a room with CL people, they all get uncomfortable looks on their faces, even if you say something even slightly disagreeable about a random kid or kids in general (kids don't even need to be present). Now, if they solely disagreed w/ you, they might politely pipe up and voice that, but they get uncomfortable, which tells me it is a given that the situation sucks but they refuse to talk about it, they can't believe someone said what they think out loud. We as a society put ourselves in this position, so we keep on mindlessly reproducing. Also, people are emotionally involved in their own childhoods, so they feel like they are hating on themselves if they admit to themselves they hate kyds.
Re: "I always disliked kids but I knew I would be very upset if I didn't have one" October 24, 2023 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,204 |
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freya
I think LOTS of people would have children if they could come and go as they pleased, only see their kids when they are in the mood, well-feed, well-rested and not preoccupied. And only at times that the kids are also perfectly behaved, well-feed, well-rested. Stroll into the room where the kids' eyes inevitably light up the minute they see the parent and the parent always cash flush and bearing gifts, a great kid dessert, etc. or something the children will be thrilled to have. Only good times, giggles, great wishes, fun and parties. Only great memories to share and think of or brag to others about. Photos worthy of social media and one adorable moment after another. There are parunts who are perfectly happy being the "good cop" only and relegating their spouse to be the "bad cop."
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