Gigabyte Wrote:
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> annie35 Wrote:
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> > Coming from a severly abusive family, I can
> tell
> > you it is mostly out of hate for choices the
> > parents made. My mom abused me my whole life
> and
> > only me the other kids were treated well. She
> said
> > she blamed me for taking away her youth and
> making
> > her life hell.
> > Some women develop a fixation with their kids
> and
> > blame their kids for their unhapppiness. As a
> > result the kids are abused and treated like
> shit.
>
> Sorry to hear about your sad life Annie. It's one
> of those typical people that blames the kid for
> ruining their youth.
>
> Of course having kids takes away their life as an
> eternal youth and their happiness. Then why people
> have kids at the first place then if it ruins
> their life and knows very well they take away
> their youth. Also they come up with some
> 'pro-life' BS all the time.
Life wasn't as sad as it could have been. I could have chosen her path, which she encouraged, and ended up as depressed and sad as she is. Instead I chose to learn from her issues and mistakes, I took a different path, one which has been balanced and happy.
Some women have a baby and then realize it sucks, they hold it against the baby and it is sad that this happens, but it does.
One of the main reasons I am CF is I have witnessed up close how stressful it is on a family, especially a family where the mom is mentally ill and the day works all the time to get away from it.
I am thankful everyday that I chose a different path, one that celebrates who I am.
To this day my mom is still unhappy about her life choices and there is nothing to be done about it, she must make the choice to be happy.