It's been just shy of nine months since his last post, I hope that doesn't mean what I think it means. I can't imagine claiming to love someone and professing a desire to spend my life with them on the condition that they donate sperm for the cause against their will. If it's clear to the woman that she wants a baybee more than she loves him, then she just needs to leave him and move on. It's proof positive that she doesn't really love him or she would give up HER "dream", or more likely her nightmare, rather than expect him to give up his whole life. Even if this woman backed down and said she'd stay with him anyway, he needs to leave. SOMEONE will have resentment which will only build over time and a happy relationship is doomed regardless of who concedes.
You can't have half a baybee or take it back for a refund or exchange. All of these people (usually women) who claim that they will do EVERYTHING and the spouse doesn't have to do "anything", are big fat liars. I have never known ANY woman who wasn't upset when hubby paid the kyd no attention or did'nt do things for or with it. They ALWAYS think the spouse will "come around" once the kyd is here and when that doesn't happen (and it never does) the marital breakdown begins. It's an ugly situation for all concerned, moomie, duddy, but mostly the poor kyd.