"Empty Nesters" moo and low January 02, 2009 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 12,447 |
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Well, my mom doesn't spend all her time on moomie boards either, so she's obviously a bad mother!Quote
I'm sure we all were terrific moms and if we didn't love our kids to pieces we wouldn't be on this message board. We deserve kudos for launching our young adults"
Re: "Empty Nesters" moo and low January 02, 2009 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 4,098 |
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kidlesskim
It sounds like they are desperately trying to pull away from their mothers and are practically being stalked, while their new wives are being treated poorly which only further alienates them. This explains the VAST many disproportionate problems bewteen DIL and MIL. vs SIL-MIL/DIL-FIL/FIL-SIL. Some of these breeder women behave as if their sons are their lovers/boyfriends/husbands. That must be an ICKY feeling for a young man.
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Amethyst
Once again, it's never really about the children one has, it's all about the Maaaaahm.
"Look at me, I'm pregnant. Look at me, I'm giving birth. Look at me, I have a baby. Look at me, I have a toddler. Look at me, I have a small child. Look at me, I have a teenager. Look at me, look at me, look at me. NOW look at me, I have an empty nest, boo hoo. Shit what am I going to do to wring out more look-at-mes if I don't become a granny??"
It's telling how the moving-out daughter/son... at any age... has to be the grownup in the situation and shake off the moocow who's clinging to their legs and begging them not to leave. Or who is 'letting' them leave, but then setting all these expectations on how daughter/son will keep in contact with her 40 times daily and see her at least every other day and send her things and invite her to every last little social event for the rest of their lives.
Pathetic. As usual.
Are there any cases of Dads behaving like certifiable nutjobs when the kids leave the house (finally)?
Re: "Empty Nesters" moo and low January 04, 2009 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 1,431 |
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These women need to stop blaming their sons' wives and take some personal responsibility for pushing their own sons away with their unreasonable fucking demands.
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These women need to stop blaming their sons' wives and take some personal responsibility for pushing their own sons away with their unreasonable fucking demands.
Yes! Unreasonable demands and selfish behaviour. What the hell makes them think their sons and daughters actually want to sit around with them day in and day out, listening to them squawk endlessly and repetitively about their late-middle-age obsessions: the 254th telling of the 'funny' thing that happened once on a trip to Wisconsin Dells in 1968, some kind of cereal-box recipe she tried last week which didn't turn out, Mrs Miggin's hysterectomy, and how much she wants the gutters cleaned out? Ten minutes of that and anyone under the age of 55 is running for the door, gagging. Back in the day when she 'owned' her children and held all the fambly assets, it was a case of participate in this shit or else games, cool gym shoes, treats, fun, etc, would be withheld. Once the kids are out on their own and she is no longer grand-puppeteer, it must be a slap in the face to realise that there is nothing about these annoying moos which makes their children want to put up with them for more than a day at christmas and half a day at easter. Then everyone lives in denial -- it's clear the children put in appearances only out of a sense of obligation, not because they actually enjoy spending time with their mothers..
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Whenever I can be alone with my mother whether it be in person or on the phone, I truly enjoy her company and can talk to her for hours on end about just about anything. My mother has a great sense of humor and can just up and say some of the most witty things that make me bust a gut laughing. HOWEVER, those times are far and few between since the arrival of the two grandpups beginning in 1999. NOW, everything nearly always revolves around them, what THEY are doing or have done, what they said, or what they MIGHT do or say. The same old tired stories/events AND DVDs (when available) are used as visual aids and are played, paused, rewound, FF, and skipped to scenes, over and over and over and over, that being around her has become a drudgery. She also wants to tell me about Mrs so and so going to a nursing home, or Mr so and so dying, and don't I remember them, which I do not. THEN, I get a play by play of the details of their illnesses and deaths, even after I tell her I don't know who they are.
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Whenever I can be alone with my mother whether it be in person or on the phone, I truly enjoy her company and can talk to her for hours on end about just about anything. My mother has a great sense of humor and can just up and say some of the most witty things that make me bust a gut laughing. HOWEVER, those times are far and few between since the arrival of the two grandpups beginning in 1999. NOW, everything nearly always revolves around them, what THEY are doing or have done, what they said, or what they MIGHT do or say. The same old tired stories/events AND DVDs (when available) are used as visual aids and are played, paused, rewound, FF, and skipped to scenes, over and over and over and over, that being around her has become a drudgery. She also wants to tell me about Mrs so and so going to a nursing home, or Mr so and so dying, and don't I remember them, which I do not. THEN, I get a play by play of the details of their illnesses and deaths, even after I tell her I don't know who they are.
God... hang on, are we sure we don't have the same mother KK?? heh!
Since the grandkids (my sister's kids), my mom only lives vicariously through them. My mother's world evaporated the moment my sis squeezed out the first one, and now my mom only actually exists if her experiences and sensations have been (or has the possibility of being) witnessed, experienced, evaluated, and commented on by TinkyWinky, Dipsy, LaLa or Po.
Tedious example.
Mom: Do you have Marley & Me?
Amethyst: No. What's a Marley & Me?
Mom: It's a film about a puppy. The kids want to see it.
Amethyst: It doesn't sound like my kind of thing then.
Mom: Dipsy and Po saw the commercials for it and have been talking about it all week.
Amethyst: I'd like to see Frost/Nixon. Would you like to go with me to see Frost/Nixon one night?
Mom: Um. Dipsy thinks the Marley puppy looks a lot like Blondie (their old dog).
Amethyst: Oh ok. Look, Frost/Nixon is playing over at the Lincolnwood Theater.
Mom: I think TinkyWinky's schoolfriend lives near the Lincolnwood.
Amethyst: I'm going to go see it tomorrow night. Sure you wouldn't like to come along with me?
Mom: TinkyWinky saw the commercial for Frost/Nixon last night and I had to explain to him who Nixon is.
Amethyst: Or rather, who Richard Nixon was.
Mom: What?
Amethyst: He died, Mum, some years ago.
Mom: Yeah. I don't think I told TinkyWinky that, though. He's learning his presidents in Social Studies now.
Amethyst: Be careful when you stand up, your Pepsi is on the floor near your feet.
Mom: That's LaLa's Pepsi. I wonder if she wants to finish it. LaLa and Po always start pops but never finish them.
Amethyst: You know the way it's snowing I think we're going to have to get out there and shovel again today.
Mom: Dipsy fell on her back yesterday when we were doing the driveway.
Amethyst: I think the dog wants to go outside.
Mom: (calls upstairs) TinkyWinky! Put the dog out!
Amethyst: What do you want for lunch?
Mom: I'll ask the kids.
Continue along this vein from Xmas Eve straight through New Year's Day.
Fuck's sake.
Re: "Empty Nesters" moo and low January 06, 2009 | Registered: 17 years ago Posts: 3,073 |
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Feh, as long as that wine bottle is empty, than yes...I mean, we wouldn't want to waste a perfectly good bottle of wine now would we?