I TOO have witnessed the old "Pop out MY DNA and you are MY property", type of baybee daddy many times. In fact, the cemetaries are FULL of women (and often the children they claimed to have loved) who sprogged with abusive, drunk, drugged out, psycho, clinging, jobless, insecure, manless wonders. The problem I have with the typical woman who would be likely to end up in a womens' shelter, kyds in tow, is that the man they are running away from did NOT become that way overnight. EVEN IF he managed to hide his abusive and controlling behavior until after they were living together (which I do NOT believe) you can bet your ass that they were aware of this bullshit BEFORE they lay down with him and sprogged with him, for whatever reason. The typical reasons given are 1) I thought he would change 2) I didn't think he would actually ever hurt me or the kyds 3)I didn't have any place else to stay 4) My dad was like that and I was used to it/didn't realize that all men were'nt that way/thought I deserved it 5)I was afraid that he would kill me if I left. Of course I have my own set of comments for all of those excuses, but they don't like to hear it because it involves common sense.
I caught a part of a 20/20 documentary last night where women whose kyds have been killed by their fathers, step fathers, or boyfriends were being interviewed and some of them had been prosecuted, depending on the state, for crimes relating to their kyds' deaths or in one case for the murder (in Ilinois), even though she was no where NEAR the child when he killed her. The prosecutor said that she SHOULD have seen the signs (which there were NUMEROUS bruises, "accidents", even a stitched up head a few days before, and she was convicted. (although it was later overturned) The one that really stood out like a sore thumb was one where her estranged husband had shot and killed their two kyds aged about 2 and 4, by point blank gunshots to their chests. She was blaming (sued and lost though) the county and state police for not having logged in her order of protection for him properly so he was therefore able to legally buy the gun that killed them. He killed them shortly after picking them up from one of his scheduled visitations and moomie said that she NEVER thought that he might hurt the kyds.She said that if she had suspected danger then she would have never let the kyds go with him.
The interviewer point blank asked her, "Did it EVER occur to you that he MIGHT hurt the children?" She responded emphatically "NO, absolutely not". THEN, in her own interview which followed, she indirectly answered that same question, but in many many different ways. I KNOW those interviewers are chomping at the bit to ask what I am thinking, but if they did they would probably not sign the waiver and let the interview be aired. The stupid whore then says that she kept his abuse a secret for EIGHT YEARS (at LEAST 4 years prior to the oldest kyd's birth) She said that he regularly beat her, put bruises on her where they couldn't be seen, broke her arm, nose, etc.......and what FINALLY made her leave, some 9 months prior, was one of the many times that he had pushed her down the basement stairs, this last time she was HOLDING THE LITTLE BOY, when he shoved her down the stairs and onto a concrete floor below. She sat RIGHT THERE and admitted that she had left because she feared for her childrens' safety, not more than a few months prior Yet, she had "NO IDEA" that the kyds were not safe with duddy.
These women SHOULD be prosecuted each and every time duddy kills their kyds, maybe not for murder like the woman in Illinois, (since that obviously won't fly, but at least she was locked up for 7 years) but at least for accessory, negligence, child abuse, complicity, SOMETHING. If they want to live life as a human punching bag, more power to them. However, when they knowingly bring kyds into it, let them leave with an abusive duddy, grow up watching them get beaten or BEING beaten, etc......THEY ARE GUILTY. It makes me sick how they sit on TV interviews and moo and low about
their loss, when it's the kyds who are dead and they were old enough to have watched duddy point a gun at them, aim, and fire into their chests.:sbx