I, too, often wonder what happened to feminism. Women used to want an equal chance to succeed in the workplace. They wanted to be able to support themselves and not have to rely on someone else. Now it seems like many women have made a complete U-turn. They don't want to work, period. They want a hard-working hubby to give them a free ride in life. I don't know many SAHMs who actually work in the home. They delegate the cooking, cleaning and child rearing to fast-food restaurants, maids, nannies and daycare centers. When it is convenient, they spend "quality time" with the kids. "Quality time" usually means any time spent with the kids physically present,even if the kids are running wild and not receiving one-on-one attention from the mom. So "quality time" includes time in the car, driving to and from the kids activities, with mom yakking on a cell phone and the kids fighting in the back seat, for example.
SAHMs would seem to have less equality and mutual respect in their marriages than my grandmother had back in the 1930's. Grandma worked all day at home cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, grocery shopping, gardening, etc. while grandpa worked at the factory. The point is that they both worked hard all day for the good of the family. He had a a tidy house and a well-behaved child to enjoy and be proud of. He had a spouse who was a true helpmeet and partner in life. What do the husbands of SAHMs have? Parasite moos raising future parasite kids.
I know many men with SAHMs, and it is clear to me that they are bitter, feel used and do not respect their wives. I can tell that these mend are slightly skeptical of my commitment to my career (I am unmarried). I'm sure they can't help but wonder whether or when I will follow in the footsteps of their wives.
The SAHMs just make all women look bad.