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here:Having real nanny problems here. We have one DS who is now in nursery school. We hired nanny when he was born. She was very lovign and attentive to him. (Me and DH both WOH FT). At that time we asked her to do some housework but never really "enforced" it. As time went on she frankly has become lazier and lazier. Now that DS in school part-time each day I have started asking her to do some light chores around the house - real simple stuff like taking out the trash, sweeping, folding laundry. She does some of these things, some of the time. She went to DH crying and telling him that I am being so awful to her, she could quit and get another job but is staying because she loves our son etc. etc. and that she is not doing housework because she is too tired after dropping DS off at school (about 1 mile walk - so we had given her a metrocard). I am ready to let her go but DH is really afraid of confrontation. What do I do??
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Let her go - it will be hard on ds for a short while but you'll be able to find someone who will appreciate the job and not mind taking out the trash etc.
[OP]: I made it clear to her that the job had changed because our son is in school and that in order to keep her I was going to fill her time with these chores (which she was supposed to be doing anyhow, I introduced them as "new" to wipe the slate clean). Feel like I am bending over backwards for this woman.
agreed, got to put the expectations out there, if she doesn't like what she has to do, she can leave. good luck to her in this economy
I;m so happy my DH has a job, he could blow his boss for all I care
but seriously, she should be grateful to be employed. She needs an attitude adjustment
You hired a nanny. If you want a housekeeper, hire a HOUSEKEEPER. Does your employer ask YOU to do "light chores" around the office like emptying the wastebaskets?
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