Shmonster
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Re: Project about the pressure to have children March 24, 2009 |
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str8six
When you are out and about, observe children and their parents: Look to see how many dads are out with the family, look at their faces - facial expressions and body language are very telling about ones' current mood and feelings. Look at the moms, do they look happy? Watch the kids' behavior, are they well-behaved and respectful or are they hellions? You're going to have to observe your surroundings and make your own decision for yourself.
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Re: Project about the pressure to have children March 24, 2009 |
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B. Waterhouse
I've mentioned this title on other threads, but I don't mind repeating it: Shirley Radl's autobiographical book _Mother's Day Is Over_ is a masterpiece: a woman who had a glorious childfree marriage for several years had two children by choice. And she has never stopped regretting it! The book is a great example of how your life will be changed for the worse every minute by children--and it's the perfect response to the bingo "But it's different when they're your OWNNN!
The book's out of print but lots of copies are available at bookfinder.com.
Shmonster
Re: Project about the pressure to have children March 24, 2009 |
Re: Project about the pressure to have children March 25, 2009 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 3,852 |
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Shmonster
Thank you so much for all the wonderful resources and opinions.
This is very helpful, I'm looking into all the books and websites mentioned.
As people on here have said, it's just so important to THINK about these things, and people don't think. They just do what everybody else seems to be doing, like sheep.
On a side note:
I also do NOT get how having children is "selfless". Before you have a baby, the baby doesn't exist. You can't be creating the baby for him/her, they don't exist yet. It's the most selfish thing we can do, given that so many children out there have no homes, and we are quickly exhausting our planet's resources. If someone is inclined to be a parent, the least selfish thing to do would be to adopt then.
I'm not saying someone is bad for wanting to have children, even their own biological children. But if/when I ever decide that's what I want to do, at least I will be AWARE that it's a selfish choice, not a selfless one.
Sheesh.
Anyway I will keep checking back here and read more of this great stuff.
Thank you!
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Banshee
little humanoid parasites that actually feed on dairy beverage out of a woman's PRIVATE PARTS!
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Re: Project about the pressure to have children March 25, 2009 |
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pompom
...I accidentally became pregnant (pill + stomach flu is not a good combo). Sometimes people say "if it is yours, you will love it". Well, I am living proof that it is not always true. When I found out about the pregnancy, I was absolutely grossed out. Horrified. Disgusted. I found out on a Friday, and by Monday, when I went for my blood test and scan, the pregnancy was on its way out. Was it by sheer determination on my part that it go away? Probably not, but I'll never know. I suppose some people decide not to have children for practical reasons (wanting to enjoy free time, disposable income and travel), or environmental reasons (overpopulation), but in my case, I just don't like them and never have....
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