Re: CF Breeder Pleaser Gets a Bit of a Comeuppance? October 15, 2010 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 12,447 |
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I think this is where the term "Old Wives' Tale" must have originated from. People doing things that their mother or grandmother always did without bothering to ask what was the real reason for doing it that way.
I see this phenomenon operating in the way people deal with their cars. You used to have to pump the gas when you turned on the ignition and let the car "warm up" for 10 to 20 minutes; with modern cars, you don't have to do that, but people still think they have to anyway because "it's what my father always did when we were little".
Re: CF Breeder Pleaser Gets a Bit of a Comeuppance? October 15, 2010 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 6,607 |
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kidlesskim
My uncle (her son in law) worked 2nd and 3rd shifts for THIRTY years and my grandmother never let up on him about how unhealthy that was making him. Every single time that she saw him she would ask, "When are you going to be there long enough to get a "regular" shift?" It never occurred to her that he PREFERRED those shifts.
Re: CF Breeder Pleaser Gets a Bit of a Comeuppance? October 15, 2010 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 12,447 |
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My uncle (her son in law) worked 2nd and 3rd shifts for THIRTY years and my grandmother never let up on him about how unhealthy that was making him. Every single time that she saw him she would ask, "When are you going to be there long enough to get a "regular" shift?" It never occurred to her that he PREFERRED those shifts.
She never understood the Lark and Owl effect?
Dh and I were once on second shift: 4-12, and considered that the perfect schedule. We weren't social types so being at work in the evening was fine; staying up til one a.m. (giving time for the commute home) was manageable; we could sleep late. I can see where third shifts would be untenable, we both work that now and have probably shaved a few years off our lives because of what has been found to be a disruption of the body's circadian rhythm. For Owl-types, though, those hours work fine.
Re: CF Breeder Pleaser Gets a Bit of a Comeuppance? October 16, 2010 | Registered: 17 years ago Posts: 4,117 |
Re: CF Breeder Pleaser Gets a Bit of a Comeuppance? October 16, 2010 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,437 |
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kidlesskim
My 70 year old father ALWAYS starts his 2008 Volkswagon up and lets it "warm up" for about 20 minutes before he drives it anywhere, summer or winter. So, it has nothing to do with the heater, although it too works instantaneously. My mother still refuses to put cooked food in the refrigerator until it cools down too, although it was discredited DECADES ago that not doing so would NOT cause botulism. My grandmother (90) SWEARS that it's unhealthy to eat after 6pm at night and that sleeping past 6-7am isn't "good" for you. My uncle (her son in law) worked 2nd and 3rd shifts for THIRTY years and my grandmother never let up on him about how unhealthy that was making him. Every single time that she saw him she would ask, "When are you going to be there long enough to get a "regular" shift?" It never occurred to her that he PREFERRED those shifts.
Re: CF Breeder Pleaser Gets a Bit of a Comeuppance? October 16, 2010 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,042 |
Re: CF Breeder Pleaser Gets a Bit of a Comeuppance? October 16, 2010 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,437 |
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Melissa's gonna join one of our boards. Maybe not the Jihad-Lite that is Bratfree, but the next peg up.
Re: CF Breeder Pleaser Gets a Bit of a Comeuppance? October 17, 2010 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 6,607 |
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I find it hard to believe that being on any schedule that fits your natural body rhythms is 'unhealthy,' it's more likely to be that the women that they tested who worked on the night shift and had negative health effects (a) weren't night people to begin with, and (b) had shifting schedules. For some reason it is rare for someone to always get the night shift, instead of being switched every couple of weeks, which naturally messes up the body. Or, even if someone is left on the night shift, on the days off that person might have to switch to a day schedule in order to interact with businesses. Or maybe they are constantly having sleep interrupted because of noisy neighbors...at any rate, I don't think that the study was very conclusive on this.
Re: CF Breeder Pleaser Gets a Bit of a Comeuppance? October 17, 2010 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 5,443 |
Re: CF Breeder Pleaser Gets a Bit of a Comeuppance? October 17, 2010 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 12,447 |
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Dorisan
I'm a bit of an expert on the OTC sleep meds (tried Ambion - went on a 24hr chemical bender; Lunesta - that would come to $90/month out-of-pocket) simply because I can't sleep during the day. Hanging out on the sleep disorders message boards, that is the life that most of the people working full-time thirds lead. Even many people who consider themselves Owls. Being an Owl out of your own propensity is one thing - you can vary your hours by your own design. Being a scheduled Owl is something else.
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Re: CF Breeder Pleaser Gets a Bit of a Comeuppance? October 19, 2010 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 808 |
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I'm a bit of an expert on the OTC sleep meds (tried Ambion - went on a 24hr chemical bender; Lunesta - that would come to $90/month out-of-pocket) simply because I can't sleep during the day. Hanging out on the sleep disorders message boards, that is the life that most of the people working full-time thirds lead. Even many people who consider themselves Owls. Being an Owl out of your own propensity is one thing - you can vary your hours by your own design. Being a scheduled Owl is something else.
Oh I agree. Being a forced owl for a daytimer is just as bad as being a forced daytimer if you are a natural night timer. The probable reason that even the owls don't do that well on third shift is because they are forced daytimers(by society) the rest of their non working hours. If they want a doctor's appointment, hair salon/nail appointment, get their car serviced, or even to shop retail other than Walmart, it just about HAS to be done 8AM-5PM, unless they live in a large 24/7 type of city. Even then most of the better places aren't open all night like medical and personal service places. Another thing that I have noticed is that most businesses open at night generally have higher prices. Night timers are penalized in nearly every way by society because it isn't "natural" to be up all night and to sleep all day.
:sam Oh, and on a helpful note for younger nightimers who live on a daytimer schedule who MIGHT need a little advice from an old pro: NEVER disclose to anyone that you are a natural night timer, ever. This will only HURT you because daytimers in general will NOT believe that this isn't something that you choose because they do NOT understand it. They will spend the rest of their natural lives offering up BINGOS which will frustrate you to no end. They will also be more inclined to call you earlier in the morning and plan events early in the day in a subconscious effort to FORCE you to get up and be there. They honestly believe that you should and CAN change, for your own good of course.
If they wake you up, act energized and refreshed and lie and say that you have been up and about for HOURS and it doesn't hurt to imply that at 9AM, they must have "slept in"! Daytimer zealots are notorious for ENJOYING waking us up because they know that the favor can't be returned. For example, if YOU called them at 3AM, then YOU are the one with the "problem" and it will not be tolerated. I know, because I have tried it and it FAILED miserably and was turned around on me and it made them WORSE! When you take their power away, the early calls will generally cease. They are often on a mission and it's fueled by passive aggressiveness, selfishness, and ignorance.
Once I convinced my father in law, an AWFUL "first thing in the morning person", that his son had "changed" and that I had ALWAYS been an early riser, he stopped calling at 7AM. It also helps to occasionally reinforce the lie, because in order for them to stop then it has to be believable. Call THEM right before you go to sleep at about 6AM, but of course you SAY that you just got up! I have done that in the past as well and it worked too. I have been battling day timers for my whole life and have lots of little tricks to get them off my back which do NOT include trying to sway them to my way of thinking or to trying to explain anything. LYING is the best policy, in this case.
Re: CF Breeder Pleaser Gets a Bit of a Comeuppance? October 19, 2010 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 12,447 |
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I'm going to make it my strategy to "train" certain people not to call me early. I will first make sure that they can call me at other times of the day and then I will let them know that I cannot answer their calls if they call at certain times. If they call at these specific times, I will either ignore their calls or answer and ask if it's an emergency. If it isn't, I will repeat that I can't talk at certain times and hang up.
Re: CF Breeder Pleaser Gets a Bit of a Comeuppance? October 19, 2010 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 808 |
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I'm going to make it my strategy to "train" certain people not to call me early. I will first make sure that they can call me at other times of the day and then I will let them know that I cannot answer their calls if they call at certain times. If they call at these specific times, I will either ignore their calls or answer and ask if it's an emergency. If it isn't, I will repeat that I can't talk at certain times and hang up.
While it may work for you, that was my natural first strategy as well, but it didn't work. I can't comprehend being told ONCE by someone that a certain time of the day or night isn't a good time to call, but then continuing to ignore that and keep calling anyway. However, like I said, I tried that approach first as well (for YEARS) and learned that this request or demand doesn't work and here's a few reasons why, although a daytimer's reasons for waking us up are endless:
**I am referring to obnoxious daytimer zealots, NOT daytimers who mind their own business. I also acknowledge that there are obnoxious night timers as well. However, they are fewer in number because there are fewer nightimers in contrast to daytimers. Also, because nighttimers' sleep patterns are not socially accepted at large, they are less likely to be "out of the closet" and bother people at "odd" hours.
1))Most daytimers can't comprehend that someone really prefers night wakefulness over day, so they don't really believe you when you tell them no matter how many times or how many ways that you say it.
2)Most daytimers don't think that it's healthy or natural to be on those "weird" sleep patterns. Deep down, they honestly believe that if you would JUST GET UP(like when they call), then your body will somehow "reprogram" itself to a "normal" sleep pattern
3)Many daytimers think that they are doing you a favor by waking you up at a "normal" time because they think that you are "missing" something important in life at that particular moment. It could be watching a sunrise, hearing about something that just happened on the news, that there is a tornado watch in the area that might blow you away while you sleep, or that by knowing about cousin Agnes' death at 6AM rather than 10AM would make a substantial difference to you even though she isn't getting buried until next Tuesday. You just NEED to know these things AS they happen and all of that sleeping that you do can WAIT by God! Life is passing you by!
4)Most daytimers honestly believe that you are "sleeping your life away" because THEY are asleep when YOU are awake, but all that they see is that YOU ARE ALWAYS SLEEPING. It doesn't occur to them that if the hours were documented, that you likely actually sleep LESS than they do, but just at different times. Oh and it does no good to try and convince them of this either. They can't muster the imagination that someone else can actually be awake while they are sleeping.
5)Some daytimers are also bullies and they enjoy waking people up under the guise of, "It's after NOON, I didn't wake you did I?": As if they didn't know.
6)Since daytimers have tradition and majority societal opinion on their side, they feel superior to nightimers and confident that it's "okay" to reprimand them for something that isn't "normal", much like they do with the childfree, gay people, and any religion that isn't Christian.
Not answering their calls and/or hanging up on them might work in certain circumstances such as with a sales call or an acquaintance, but there will always be a family member, an otherwise good friend, and the occasional boss who will NOT get the message and who can cause you personal grief should you enlist these tactics. Oh and NEVER marry anyone who is the opposite of your sleep pattern!!!!! It is less likely to last than a May-December, a Christian-Non Christian, or a wealthy-wrong side of the RR tracks marriage. Like a breeder-cf hookup, a nighttimer-daytimer long term relationship is generally DOOMED. Although like with everything else, there are exceptions, it has been my experience that the two do NOT mix well, especially when taking a two week cruise togther when "early bird" and midnight buffets are "couple dining options".
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While it may work for you, that was my natural first strategy as well, but it didn't work. I can't comprehend being told ONCE by someone that a certain time of the day or night isn't a good time to call, but then continuing to ignore that and keep calling anyway. However, like I said, I tried that approach first as well (for YEARS) and learned that this request or demand doesn't work and here's a few reasons why, although a daytimer's reasons for waking us up are endless:Quote
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I'm going to make it my strategy to "train" certain people not to call me early. I will first make sure that they can call me at other times of the day and then I will let them know that I cannot answer their calls if they call at certain times. If they call at these specific times, I will either ignore their calls or answer and ask if it's an emergency. If it isn't, I will repeat that I can't talk at certain times and hang up.
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Not answering their calls and/or hanging up on them might work in certain circumstances such as with a sales call or an acquaintance, but there will always be a family member, an otherwise good friend, and the occasional boss who will NOT get the message and who can cause you personal grief should you enlist these tactics. Oh and NEVER marry anyone who is the opposite of your sleep pattern!!!!! It is less likely to last than a May-December, a Christian-Non Christian, or a wealthy-wrong side of the RR tracks marriage. Like a breeder-cf hookup, a nighttimer-daytimer long term relationship is generally DOOMED. Although like with everything else, there are exceptions, it has been my experience that the two do NOT mix well, especially when taking a two week cruise togther when "early bird" and midnight buffets are "couple dining options".