Women who die are "Mawms," but women who kill are "Wives" January 29, 2011 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,207 |
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She was very clear to Mr. Clagon through letters she had written to him, and through text messages she had sent him, that she really wanted to be with him," Hogan said. "And the best way to be with him was if her husband was taken care of."
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Hogan said Wiley claimed that she was being physically abused by her husband and couldn't take it anymore, but investigators found "no credible evidence … that there was anything to the level that she had described."
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In fact, in the days and weeks before the killing, Delilah Wiley and her husband had traded text messages saying how much they loved each other, Hogan said.
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On March 31, the day before the slaying, Delilah Wiley sent her husband a text message that she was drunk at a friend's house and couldn't get home.
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Woman pleads guilty in plot to kill her husband outside Chester plant in 2008
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Delilah and Dell Wiley were married two years and had two children.
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Re: Women who die are "Mawms," but women who kill are "Wives" January 29, 2011 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,207 |
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Christhead, I would like something similar, but taken a step further by not even mentioning the victim's or perp's sex in headlines.
Re: Women who die are "Mawms," but women who kill are "Wives" January 29, 2011 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 8,402 |
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Surely it should have read: Woman pleads guilty in plot to kill father of two outside Chester plant in 2008
Christhead, I would like something similar, but taken a step further by not even mentioning the victim's or perp's sex in headlines.
Re: Women who die are "Mawms," but women who kill are "Wives" January 30, 2011 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,441 |
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Christhead, I would like something similar, but taken a step further by not even mentioning the victim's or perp's sex in headlines.
Could you elaborate? I think identifying whether someone is male or female is okay.
I agree there should be no mention of whether someone is a mother or father in the headline, because it has shit-all to do with the story. It doesn't mean the person is any less dead or assaulted or less of a criminal, whatever.
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Re: Women who die are "Mawms," but women who kill are "Wives" January 30, 2011 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 8,402 |
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Christhead, I would like something similar, but taken a step further by not even mentioning the victim's or perp's sex in headlines.
Could you elaborate? I think identifying whether someone is male or female is okay.
I agree there should be no mention of whether someone is a mother or father in the headline, because it has shit-all to do with the story. It doesn't mean the person is any less dead or assaulted or less of a criminal, whatever.
Okay, I'll try to explain my views. This is a bit of a detour!
I think that sex organs are relevant in a limited set of circumstances, such as reproduction and sexual attraction. Sex is not relevant for the majority of human interactions, and yet our language, which encourages identifying people by gender, and which has different pronouns for different genders, encourages this distinction.
Suppose I am interviewing for a job. What's the most important thing I can find out about this person in advance? Would it be that the person is of Asian descent? Would it be that the person has brown eyes? Would it be that the person is 52 years old? Would it be that the person is male? I'd much rather know whether the person has a technical background or a management background. Sex is as irrelevant to me as the other details I listed.
When I think of myself, my sex is one thing which defines me, but by far it is not the most important thing which makes me the person I am. If my sex has had more of an impact in my life than other physical characteristics, I attribute that to society. But if I were to pick one word to describe myself, that word would not be 'female,' as other characteristics are much more 'me' than my sex. Yet sex is exactly the one thing that someone learns about me, upon seeing my name written as Ms. Yurble rather than Mr. Yurble.
If I am the victim of an armed mugging, is the fact that I am a woman relevant, unless there has been a rash of similar crimes targeting victims with this common trait? Would you expect to see a headline reading: Redhead mugged a gunpoint or 5'6" person victim of robbery? Personally, I'd be rather surprised to see those headlines, and if I did, I would imagine that it was because that person was the 10th redhead to be mugged that month, and there had been no muggings involving people with other haircolors. It wouldn't just be thrown in there because the editor thought it would be an interesting characteristic to define the victim.
I'm not saying that the paper is being deliberately sexist. This method of identifying people primarily by sex is widespread in society, and supported by our language. But imagine if our pronouns distinguished on the basis of race. Wouldn't that feel strange, and vaguely racist?
Yesterday, Oprah was in my city. They were filming bler in the park and I had to detour. Her guest was Nicole Kidman, and whi was talking about her gestational carrier. They had Brad Pitt there, too, but whi was just standing around looking confused. Jesse Jackson was there, too, and I don't think ble knew why, either.
It's because we're used to differentiating people on the basis of sex that it seems normal and doesn't appear to carry any overtones.
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I like to know ALL details about people in the news, especially victims. I want to know their age, gender, race, religion, marital status, sexual orientation, occupation, location, etc........I don't know why exactly, although it may come to me later, but I just do. What I do NOT like to see though is someone's death or accomplishment glorified because they are a parent. THAT DOES get on my nerves because it implies that they, what happened to them, or what they accomplished is more important BECAUSE they have kids. It doesn't bother me if their parental status is just mentioned like any other fact about them, but that's generally not the case. I like full disclosure about ALL facts surrounding "stories" and I hate it when they leave anything out and then follow it up with, "More details later as they become available ".
THIS is why I wouldn't be a good juror. I want to know EVERYTHING about the victim AND the defendant including prior arrests and convictions and I also want to know their COMPLETE histories. I also want to know each and every detail surrounding the crime, NOT just what either side is able to get entered into evidence, but that's just me.
Re: Women who die are "Mawms," but women who kill are "Wives" January 30, 2011 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 12,447 |
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kidlesskim
I like to know ALL details about people in the news, especially victims. I want to know their age, gender, race, religion, marital status, sexual orientation, occupation, location, etc........I don't know why exactly, although it may come to me later, but I just do. What I do NOT like to see though is someone's death or accomplishment glorified because they are a parent. THAT DOES get on my nerves because it implies that they, what happened to them, or what they accomplished is more important BECAUSE they have kids. It doesn't bother me if their parental status is just mentioned like any other fact about them, but that's generally not the case. I like full disclosure about ALL facts surrounding "stories" and I hate it when they leave anything out and then follow it up with, "More details later as they become available ".
THIS is why I wouldn't be a good juror. I want to know EVERYTHING about the victim AND the defendant including prior arrests and convictions and I also want to know their COMPLETE histories. I also want to know each and every detail surrounding the crime, NOT just what either side is able to get entered into evidence, but that's just me.
i sometimes understand it is the sympathy angle. a murderer kills a woman and they mention her being married or having kids because her death does have an impact on her family obviously. but when it is all about her being a mother while totally ignoring any other victims who were not parents, it is obnoxious.