When the "Catch" is no longer a Catch

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Loavesstillsuck
The over attachment to their moms thing is always a red flag - but sometimes you don't notice it at first if the guy is still pretending to be straight. A lot of them AREN'T. (Helpful tech tip.) Doesn't mean they've actively sought out a gay lifestyle, but they've often been sort of, um, NEUTERED by an overly bossy, narcissistic, and/or perfectionist type of dysfunctional mom, so relating to a "normal" girl is something they find damned difficult.

You know, this made me remember a "Mama's Boy" I had the misfortune of being involved with (I cut that off REAL quick!) - but it was weird - this guy also talked about gay sex all the time.

Let me describe this guy - very good looking, actor (no one you'd know as he was like D-List from his own laziness and entitled attitude - yeah he could not process the idea that successful actors have to *actually work*, Worshipful Moomy failed to tell him that.)

This guy - at the time I knew him - was early 40s and a total washout. Whine and moan, whine and moan. That is ALL he did. And Mama worshipped the ground he walked on. I knew this was a bad scene when Mama was fawning over him like a groupie.

This guy could pull women too. But as soon as they saw what he was - they ran. As I did.

He was always talking sex too - always looking to bang some younger and hotter female. His eye was ALWAYS on VERY YOUNG females - like PRE TEENS! 14 year olds. And he honestly wanted one too, or as close to 'legal' as possible - like a 16 year old.

He literally thought he was Charlie Sheen. Cause Mama told him so.

But the other weird angle was - he also talked enough about GAY SEX. Uh, if you are not gay - why do you care? I do not think he was "authentically gay" or even Bi - since he spent 90% of his time ogling 13 year old girls.

But, he would often talk about gay sex.

This is my take on that - he wanna upset Mommy. That's how these types are - they wanna push as far as they can go. They don't want "Teh Ghey" - what they want is - to see how much Mommy will let them get away with. Too used to always getting their way, they are trying to push any limit - just to see what it will bring.

This is - not a 'true gay' in my opinion, nor even really "bi". It isn't about sex for the Mama's Boy - it's about pushing limits.

BEWARE the Mama's Boys! I had to learn the hard way. Thank Jah I did not pick up any STD from this guy - I realized he would fuck anything that moved. - If - the fuckee fawned all over him. Those who ignored him or even seemed luke warm interested were CUNTS! WHORES! SPOILED WOMEN! STUCK UP BITCHES!

A Narcissist of the purest ray serene. And his worshipful Mommy made him that way. She ruined him.

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Zzelda

You know, this made me remember a "Mama's Boy" I had the misfortune of being involved with (I cut that off REAL quick!) - but it was weird - this guy also talked about gay sex all the time.

Let me describe this guy - very good looking, actor (no one you'd know as he was like D-List from his own laziness and entitled attitude - yeah he could not process the idea that successful actors have to *actually work*, Worshipful Moomy failed to tell him that.)

This guy - at the time I knew him - was early 40s and a total washout. Whine and moan, whine and moan. That is ALL he did. And Mama worshipped the ground he walked on. I knew this was a bad scene when Mama was fawning over him like a groupie.

This guy could pull women too. But as soon as they saw what he was - they ran. As I did.

He was always talking sex too - always looking to bang some younger and hotter female. His eye was ALWAYS on VERY YOUNG females - like PRE TEENS! 14 year olds. And he honestly wanted one too, or as close to 'legal' as possible - like a 16 year old.

He literally thought he was Charlie Sheen. Cause Mama told him so.

But the other weird angle was - he also talked enough about GAY SEX. Uh, if you are not gay - why do you care? I do not think he was "authentically gay" or even Bi - since he spent 90% of his time ogling 13 year old girls.

But, he would often talk about gay sex.

This is my take on that - he wanna upset Mommy. That's how these types are - they wanna push as far as they can go. They don't want "Teh Ghey" - what they want is - to see how much Mommy will let them get away with. Too used to always getting their way, they are trying to push any limit - just to see what it will bring.

This is - not a 'true gay' in my opinion, nor even really "bi". It isn't about sex for the Mama's Boy - it's about pushing limits.

BEWARE the Mama's Boys! I had to learn the hard way. Thank Jah I did not pick up any STD from this guy - I realized he would fuck anything that moved. - If - the fuckee fawned all over him. Those who ignored him or even seemed luke warm interested were CUNTS! WHORES! SPOILED WOMEN! STUCK UP BITCHES!

A Narcissist of the purest ray serene. And his worshipful Mommy made him that way. She ruined him.

Was he a porn star? From your description of him, he sure sounds like he could be that type.

Rainbow -

It's odd that you mention that because that was this guy's ULTIMATE DREAM JOB! He spoke of doing that *all the time*.

Good looking as he was, his dick wasn't big enough though

Adding this thought rather than editing my last one -

To say -

Lurking Parents - take note. Especially Mothers of Sons. Love doesn't mean worship. Don't ruin your son.

We can see, examples throughout history, of what these type of men become. Useless. Raging Jerks. Lazy. Ne'er do wells.
(Non Authentic) gays, and/or party boys.

PLEASE! Do not ruin your child! Love is good, but there needs to be a balance. You need to prepare the child for THE REAL WORLD.

You do say Motherhood is a 'job' right? Then do it right and don't do your child any disservice. Loving too much can do big harm.

We know you mean well - you want to give the kid confidence, a 'safe place', self esteem - but - there can be TOO MUCH of a good thing.

People have to lose sometimes too.

Please try to view things objectively. Goes for your female children as well.

But since we're on men here - many voices of experience here - and NO ONE wants a "MAMA'S BOY". Go on traditional family type sites too - those women also - they don't want no Mama's Boy's either!

So do pay attention - NO ONE - from the Hard Core Feminist to the Traditional Mormon to Jewish Girl to Old World Amish - wants a "Mama's Boy".

It's pretty simple logic, too. NO ONE wants to deal with a voluntary invalid who refuses to contribute and only wants the big love and attention that Mama always gave.

PLEASE take note of this!

I dated a little in my early 20s, but I also saw my friends hooking up and getting married. That was enough to convince me not to date again for a very, very long time. You would think that single girls with no kids (yet) wouldn't have to "settle," but oh god they did. I'd hang out with the couple and be thinking the entire time..if this is what I'd have to put up with to have a relationship I'd rather shoot myself. Almost every one of my friends lost her identity when she got married (this was back in the '70s), every opinion she had was what "he" thought. Suddenly she could no longer think for herself. It scared me and disgusted me. And of course they all started shitting brats and that made it even worse, at least to me. Oh god, you've had kids. Now you're really stuck with this loser bastard. I'd look at their lives of work, struggle, snotty noses, never having any time for themselves.... and feel sad that the friend I knew could have done so much more with her life.

I was a societal aberration for years, never married, no kids. I did finally find my sweet, funny, amazing husband. He never had kids himself though he'd been married twice before. We have none of that baggage to deal with, thank goodness. He was a bit of a rake and womanizer in his younger days, and I was almost fanatically independent. We don't tell each other what to do or have any 'rules' about our relationship. We are together because we want to be, and that's what makes it so wonderful.

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deanad
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Ladies (and I call you that loosely),

Guys like me went without sex in our teens and 20s for lots of reasons. We were bettering ourselves, we were holding out for someone worth the effort, or we were just plain ignored for being 'nerdy' or 'not cool.' Well, we're in our 30s now with stable professional jobs, lots of money and many well developed interests. We're suddenly prime catches... so what the fuck makes you think we want your used-up asses and snotty fatherless children? You chose to party all the time and fuck the hot 'bad boys' so you can live with the consequences. There's plenty of smart, successful, single, childless ladies out there looking for a guy like me. Get lost, you washed up skanks - you're ten years too late.

who is this guy? is he available?